Pet adoptions have been soaring with the current COVID-19 pandemic. In my opinion, that totally makes sense! After all, who wouldn’t want an adorable cuddle to pass the newfound time at home?
That’s where a pandemic puppy can come into the picture. Today I will share a complete look at the cost of adopting my pandemic pup, so you can know what you’re getting into.
What’s Ahead:
Why I adopted a pandemic puppy
I’ve been dreaming of adopting a puppy since I got to college. I grew up with a wonderful dog and waited for the day that I could comfortably adopt a new puppy.
Over the years, I always had a responsible reason for why I couldn’t adopt a puppy at the moment. For years, my string of small apartments wouldn’t make a happy home for a puppy. Plus, I wanted to have some savings on hand for the inevitable expenses the responsibility of a dog would bring, like unexpected vet visits. Little did I know, I could save on some of these expenses by purchasing a pet insurance policy through an insurer like Embrace. However, without that knowledge, I continued to put off my desire to bring a puppy into my life.
In January, my husband and I started to seriously consider bringing a puppy home. We were finally living in a space with a fenced backyard and plenty of nearby hiking trails for an active pup. We even applied to adopt a handful of puppies, but the timing never worked out for us.
In mid-March, my husband and I were looking forward to a busy spring. I had several fun trips mapped out until the COVID-19 pandemic through our plans for a loop. As things started to settle into an isolating routine, my husband transitioned to working from home. At that point, we decided that we were truly ready to bring home a puppy with both of us available at the house.
When we spotted our pandemic puppy on a rural shelter page in mid-March, we hopped in the car and drove the hour to meet him. Immediately we fell in love and put down a deposit to secure his adoption for the next week. We were able to bring him home at the end of March when he turned eight weeks old.
Pongo has been our fun-loving pup ever since!
The cost breakdown
Pongo was an adorable eight-week-old puppy that quickly grew into a 40-pound bundle of joy. Along the way, he has turned out to be a rather expensive pandemic purchase.
I will take more in-depth about this below, but one way to save a ton on puppy costs is through pet insurance. Pumpkin is one of the best options on the market, with an affordable preventive care option.
Bringing him home
The first major expense of owning a pet is bringing them home. For Pongo, those costs added up quickly.
$50 deposit to secure his adoption. We paid this fee a week before he was available for adoption to ensure that he was coming home with us.
$150 adoption fee. The adoption fee covered his neuter surgery and other medical treatments that the shelter provided. When Pongo was found at the shelter, he and his brother were in fairly bad shape. Both had significant skin issues which needed extensive treatment. Luckily, the shelter quickly restored his skin to a better condition and continued the treatments after we brought him home.
$210 rental pet fee. When we first got Pongo, we were living in a rented duplex. The landlords graciously allowed us to bring Pongo home. But we had to pay a $210 non-refundable pet fee.
The first part of the adoption journey was several hundred dollars. But that was just the beginning!
Vet bills
When you bring home a young puppy, you should expect to pay for a wide range of vaccinations. We brought Pongo home as an eight-week puppy with some severe skin issues. With that, our vet bills were a little bit higher than the norm.
$189.96 – First vet visit and a handful of shots.
$87.04 –A booster shot visit.
$205.8 –More shots and skin check-up.
$67.27 –Another booster shot visit.
$79.33 –A microchip visit with another vaccine.
The veterinary costs can add up quickly. But after this last visit to the vet, Pongo should be okay until his annual appointment in March.
Other costs
Beyond the initial costs of bringing him home and the vet bills, extra expenses needed to be considered. I’ll break them down now:
$98.17 – The first of many Amazon orders to make our home comfortable for Pongo. This included buying a crate to grow into, potty training pads, teething rings, and other toys.
$6.25 – A quick trip to the hardware store by my house that sells dog toys and bones.
$12.68 –Another Amazon purchase to stock up on toys – because Pongo rips through toys very quickly.
$58.01 –A Petsmart run for food and other supplies.
$10.57 –More toys from Ace Hardware.
$280 – We set up a subscription for Pongo’s food from Amazon. With that, we are able to save 5% on his food, but it still adds up.
$50 – Walmart Pet Rx purchase for his first round of heartworm medication.
$75 –A Chewy delivery of Pongo’s six month supply of preventative medications.
$275 –The combined total of boarding costs for Pongo on three separate occasions.
As you can see, the extra costs of a puppy can get expensive.
The total cost of adopting my pandemic puppy
Although we look for opportunities to save where we can, the cost of owning a pet is just expensive. What isn’t included in these expenses are the sleepless nights of puppy potty training and adorable puppy cuddles that make it all worth it.
In total, the cost of adopting our pandemic puppy is $1,904.51. So far, we’ve spent close to $2,000 on Pongo. But I’m optimistic that the upfront veterinary costs of adopting a puppy with a few skin issues will not continue to be a major factor.
Overall, we were very happy to bring Pongo into our lives. He has been worth every penny!
Where I could have saved more
Of course, there are always ways to save more. What I didn’t look into when I first brought Pongo home was pet insurance. I think that I seriously missed out on an opportunity to save on vet bills. With that, you may want to look into your pet insurance options if you are considering adopting a pet. Here is a bit more about Embrace.
Lemonade
Lemonade is a great pet insurance option. They’re quickly disrupting the industry with their low-cost plans that start as low as $10/month (and a 10% discount if you also insure your home or car through Lemonade). But, you can decide the deductible amount and coverage limit you want to set for yourself.
When it comes to what they cover, the answer is pretty much up to you. If you’re looking for basic wellness care and vaccine coverage, Lemonade has a plan for you. But, they’re also perfect for those looking to protect their pet in the event of an accident or illness. They’ll cover heartworm testing, fecal testing, bloodwork, emergency surgeries, x-rays, labwork, medications, and more.
Plus, an especially wonderful feature of Lemonade is that they offer expert medical advice via their chat feature. That way, you don’t have to call up the vet for every little question.
Pumpkin
Pumpkin is another pet insurance provider that offers an insurance plan designed to prioritize the wellness of your pet. Pumpkin offers insurance that covers a high percentage of eligible veterinary expenses for accidents and illnesses. Pumpkin also offers an optional preventative care plan – Pumpkin Preventive Essentials – which pays for an annual wellness exam, vaccines, and select lab tests to detect parasites & life-threatening diseases.
Here’s how Pumpkin works: when your dog is sick, you can take them to any licensed veterinarian in the U.S. or Canada for treatment. You pay the vet and then afterward, file a claim for the eligible veterinary expenses to be reimbursed after your annual deductible has been met.
In terms of annual limit options with Pumpkin, every family is offered a 90% reimbursement rate on eligible vet bills, up to an annual coverage limit of $10k or $20k for dogs and $7k or $15k for cats.
Embrace
Embrace offers pet insurance policies that you can customize to your coverage needs. You’ll be able to adjust the monthly premiums and annual payout limits to suit your budget.
In addition to the flexible coverage, you can choose to take part in a Wellness plan. A Wellness plan will reward you for taking care of your pet’s needs on a regular basis. Essentially, you’ll be rewarded if you are taking care of your pet responsibly.
Summary
The costs of a pandemic puppy can add up quickly. But if you are prepared for that financial responsibility, then the costs pale in comparison to the fun of bringing home a puppy. Even as the chaos of the pandemic swirls around us, Pongo has been an amazing blessing in our lives.
If you are considering bringing a puppy home, I’d encourage you to think about the costs ahead of time. When you have the costs of a puppy factored into your budget, you can enjoy the experience of adopting a puppy to the fullest!
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The Jefferson Avenue commercial district in Buffalo, New York, is anchored by a supermarket.
There are dozens of other businesses and services along the 12-block corridor — a couple of bank branches, a library, a coffee shop, gas stations, a small plaza with a dollar store and a primary care clinic and a business incubator for entrepreneurs of color.
But Tops Friendly Markets, the only grocery store on Buffalo’s vast East Side, is the center of activity. More than just a place to buy food, pick up medications and use an ATM, the store is a communal gathering space in a predominantly Black neighborhood that, for generations, has been segregated, isolated and disenfranchised from the wealthier — and whiter — parts of the city.
Which explains how it came to be the site of a mass shooting on a spring day in May of last year. On that Saturday, a gunman, who lived 200 miles away in another part of the state, drove to Jefferson Avenue and went into Tops, and in just a few minutes killed 10 people, injured three and inflicted mass trauma across the community.
It is a scenario that has sadly, and repeatedly, played out in other parts of the country that have experienced mass shootings. But this one came with a twist: The gunman’s intention was to kill as many Black people as possible.
To achieve that, he specifically targeted a ZIP code with one of the highest percentages of Black residents in New York state. All 10 who died that day were Black.
“The mere fact that someone can research, ‘Where will the greatest number of Black people be … on a Saturday morning,’ that’s not by chance,” said Franchelle Parker, a community organizer and executive director of Open Buffalo, a nonprofit focused on racial, economic and ecological justice. “That’s not a mistake. It’s a community that’s been deeply segregated for decades.”
The day of the shooting, Parker, who grew up in nearby Niagara Falls, was driving to Tops, where she planned to buy a donut and an unsweetened iced tea before heading into the Open Buffalo office, which is located a block away from Tops. The mother of two had intended to complete the mundane task of cleaning up her desk — “old coffee cups and stuff” — after a busy week.
She saw the news on Twitter and didn’t know if she should keep driving to Jefferson Avenue or turn around and go back home. She eventually picked the latter.
When she showed up the next day, there were thousands of people grieving in the streets. “The only way that I could explain my feeling, it was almost like watching an old war movie when a bomb had gone off and someone’s in, like, shell shock. That’s how it felt,” said Parker, vividly recounting the community’s collective trauma in a meeting room tucked inside of Open Buffalo’s second-story office on Jefferson Avenue.
Almost immediately following the May 14, 2022, massacre, which was the second-deadliest mass shooting in the United States last year, conversations locally and nationally turned to the harsh realities of the East Side and how long-standing factors that affect the daily life of residents — racism, poverty and inequity — made the community an ideal target for a white supremacist.
Now, more than a year after the tragedy, there is growing concern that not enough is being done fast enough to begin to dismantle those factors. And amid those conversations, there are mounting calls for the banking industry — whose historical policies and practices helped cement the racial segregation and disinvestment that ultimately shaped the East Side — to leverage its collective power and influence to band together in an effort to create systemic change.
The ideas about how banks should support the East Side and better embed themselves in the neighborhood vary by people and organizations. But the basic argument is the same: Banks, in their role as financiers and because of the industry’s history of lending discrimination, are obligated to bring forth economic prosperity in disinvested communities like the East Side.
I know banks are often looked upon sort of like a panacea, but I don’t particularly see it that way. I think others have a role to play in all of this.
Chiwuike Owunwanne, corporate responsibility officer at KeyBank
“Banks have been very good at providing charitable contributions to the Black community. They get an ‘A’ for that,” said The Rev. George Nicholas, an East Side pastor who is also CEO of the Buffalo Center for Health Equity, a four-year-old enterprise focused on racial, geographic and economic health disparities. “But doing the things that banks can do in terms of being a catalyst for revitalization and investment in this community, they have not done that.”
To be sure, banks’ ability to reverse the course of the community isn’t guaranteed — and there is no formula to determine how much accountability they should hold to fix deeply entrenched problems like racism. Several Buffalo-area bankers said that while the Tops shooting heightened the urgency to help the East Side, the industry itself cannot be the sole driver of change.
“There are a lot of institutions … that can certainly play a part in reversing the challenges that we see today,” said Chiwuike “Chi-Chi” Owunwanne, a corporate responsibility officer at KeyBank, the second-largest bank by deposits in Buffalo. “I know banks are often looked upon sort of like a panacea, but I don’t particularly see it that way. I think others have a role to play in all of this.”
A long history of segregation
How the East Side — and the Tops store on Jefferson Avenue — became the destination for a racially motivated mass murderer is a story about racism, segregation and disinvestment.
Even as it bears the nickname “the city of good neighbors,” Buffalo has long been one of the most racially segregated cities in the United States. Of the 114,965 residents who live on the East Side, 59% are Black, according to data from the 2021 U.S. Census American Community Survey. The percentage is even higher in the 14208 ZIP code, where the Tops store is located. In that ZIP code, among 11,029 total residents, nearly 76% are Black, the census data shows.
The city’s path toward racial segregation started in the early 20th century when a small number of job-seeking Black Americans migrated north to Buffalo, a former steel and auto manufacturing hub at the far northwestern end of New York state. Initially, they moved into the same neighborhoods as many of the city’s poorer immigrants and lived just east of what is today the city’s downtown district. As the number of Blacks arriving in Buffalo swelled in the 1940s, they were increasingly confronted with various housing challenges, including racist zoning laws and restrictive deed covenants that kept them from buying homes in more affluent white areas.
Black Buffalonians also faced housing discrimination in the form of redlining, the practice of restricting the flow of capital into minority communities. In 1933, as the Great Depression roiled the economy, a temporary federal agency known as the Home Owners’ Loan Corporation used government bonds to buy out and refinance mortgages of properties that were facing or already in foreclosure. The point was to try to stabilize the nation’s real estate market.
As part of its program, HOLC created maps of American cities, including Buffalo, that used a color coding scheme — green, blue, yellow and red — to convey the perceived riskiness of making loans in certain neighborhoods. Green was considered minimally risky; other areas that were largely populated by immigrant, Black or Latino residents were labeled red and thus determined to be “hazardous.”
“The goal was to free up mortgage capital by going to cities and giving banks a way to unload mortgages, so they could turn around and make more mortgage loans,” said Jason Richardson, senior director of research at the National Community Reinvestment Coalition, an association of more than 750 community-based organizations that advocates for fair lending. “It was kind of a radical concept and it has evolved over the decades into our modern mortgage finance system.”
The Federal Housing Administration, which was established as a permanent agency in 1934, used similar methods to map urban areas and labeled neighborhoods from “A” to “D,” with “A” considered to be the most financially stable and “D” considered the least. Neighborhoods that were largely Black, even relatively stable ones, were put in the “D” category.
The result was that banks, which wanted to be able to sell mortgage loans to the FHA, were largely dissuaded from making loans in “risky” areas. And Buffalo’s East Side, where the majority of Blacks were settling, was deemed risky. Unable to get loans, Blacks couldn’t buy homes, start businesses or build equity. At the same time, large industrial factories on the East Side were closing or moving away, limiting job opportunities and contributing to rising poverty levels.
“Today what we’re left with is the residue of this process where we’ve enshrined … a pattern of economic segregation that favors neighborhoods that had fewer Black people in them and generally ignores neighborhoods that had African Americans living in them,” Richardson said.
Case in point: Research by the National Community Reinvestment Coalition shows that three-quarters of neighborhoods that were once redlined are low- to moderate-income neighborhoods today, and two-thirds of them are majority minority communities.
Adding to the division between Blacks and whites in Buffalo was the construction of a highway called the Kensington Expressway. Built during the 1960s, the below-grade, limited-access highway proved to be a speedy way for suburban workers to get to their downtown jobs. But its construction cut off the already-segregated East Side even more from other parts of the city, displacing residents, devaluing houses and destroying neighborhoods and small businesses.
As a result of those factors and more, many Black residents have become “trapped” on the East Side, according to Dr. Henry Louis Taylor Jr., a professor of urban and regional planning at the University at Buffalo. In 1987, Taylor founded the UB Center for Urban Studies, a research, neighborhood planning and community development institute that works on eliminating inequality in cities and metropolitan regions. In September 2021, eight months before the Tops shooting, the Center for Urban Studies published a report that compared the state of Black Buffalo in 1990 to present-day conditions. The conclusion: Nothing had changed for Blacks over 31 years.
As of 2019, the Black unemployment rate was 11%, the average household income was $42,000 and about 35% of Blacks had incomes that fell below the poverty line, the report said. It also noted that just 32% of Blacks own their homes and that most Blacks in the area live on the East Side.
“Those figures remain virtually unchanged while the actual, physical conditions that existed inside of the community worsened,” Taylor told American Banker in an interview in his sun-filled office at the center, located on the University at Buffalo’s city campus. “When we looked upstream to see what was causing it, it was clear: It was systemic, structural racism.”
Banks’ moral obligations
As the East Side struggled over the decades with rampant poverty, dilapidated housing, vacant lots and disintegrating infrastructure, banks kept a physical presence in the community, albeit a shrinking one. In mid-2000, there were at least 20 bank branches scattered across the East Side, but by mid-2022, the number had fallen to around 14, according to the Federal Deposit Insurance Corp.’s deposit market share data. The 14 include four new branches that have opened since early 2019 — Northwest Bank, KeyBank, Evans Bank and BankOnBuffalo.
The first two branches, operated by Northwest in Columbus, Ohio, and KeyBank, the banking subsidiary of KeyCorp in Cleveland, were requirements of community benefits agreements negotiated between each bank and the National Community Reinvestment Coalition. In both cases, Northwest and KeyBank agreed to open an office in an underserved community.
Evans Bank opened its first East Side branch in the fall of 2021. The office is located in the basement of an $84 million affordable senior housing building that was financed by Evans, a $2.1 billion-asset community bank headquartered south of Buffalo in Angola, New York.
Banks have been very good at providing charitable contributions to the Black community. They get an ‘A’ for that. But doing the things that banks can do in terms of being a catalyst for revitalization and investment in this community, they have not done that.
The Rev. George Nicholas, an East Side pastor who is also CEO of the Buffalo Center for Health Equity
On the community and economic development front, banks have had varying levels of participation. Buffalo-based M&T Bank, which holds a whopping 64% of all deposits in the Buffalo market and is one of the largest private employers in the region, has made consistent investments in the East Side by supporting Westminster Community Charter School, a kindergarten through eighth-grade school, and the Buffalo Promise Neighborhood, a nonprofit organization focused on improving access to education in the city’s 14215 ZIP code.
Currently, Buffalo Promise Neighborhood operates four schools. In addition to Westminster, it runs Highgate Heights Elementary, also K-8, as well as two academies that serve children ages six weeks through pre-kindergarten. Twelve M&T employees are dedicated to the program, according to the Buffalo Promise Neighborhood website. The bank has invested $31.5 million into the program since its 2010 launch, a spokesperson said.
Other banks are making contributions in other ways. In addition to the Jefferson Avenue branch and as part of its community benefits plan, Northwest Bank, a $14.2 billion-asset bank, supports a financial education center through a partnership with Belmont Housing Resources of Western New York. Meanwhile, the $198 billion-asset KeyBank gave $30 million for bridge and construction financing for Northland Workforce Training Center, a $100 million redevelopment project at a former manufacturing complex on the East Side that was partially funded by the state.
BankOnBuffalo’s East Side branch is located inside the center, which offers KeyBank training in advanced manufacturing and clean energy technology careers. A subsidiary of $5.6 billion-asset CNB Financial in Clearfield, Pennsylvania, BankOnBuffalo’s office opened a month after the shooting. The timing was coincidental, but important, said Michael Noah, president of BankOnBuffalo.
“I think it just cemented the point that this is a place we need to be, to be able to be part of these communities and this community specifically, and be able to build this community up,” Noah said.
In terms of public-private collaboration, some banks have been involved in a deeper way. In 2019, New York state, which had already been pouring $1 billion into Buffalo to help revitalize the economy, announced a $65 million economic development fund for the East Side. The initiative is focused on stabilizing neighborhoods, increasing homeownership, redeveloping commercial corridors including Jefferson Avenue, improving historical assets, expanding workforce training and development and supporting small businesses and entrepreneurship.
In conjunction with the funding, a public-private partnership called East Side Avenues was created to provide capital and organizational support to the projects happening along four East Side commercial corridors. Six banks — Charlotte, North Carolina-based Bank of America, the second-largest bank in the nation with $2.5 trillion of assets; M&T, which has $203 billion of assets; KeyBank; Warsaw, New York-based Five Star Bank, which has about $6 billion of assets; Northwest and Evans — are among the 14 private and philanthropic organizations that pledged a combined $8.4 million to pay for five years’ worth of operational support, governance and finance, fundraising and technical assistance to support the nonprofits doing the work.
Laura Quebral, director of the University at Buffalo Regional Institute, which is managing East Side Avenues, said the banks were the first corporations to step up to the request for help, and since then have provided loans and other products and education to keep the program moving.
Their participation “is a signal to the community that banks cared and were invested and were willing to collaborate around something,” Quebral said. “Being at the table was so meaningful.”
Richard Hamister is Northwest’s New York regional president and former co-chair of East Side Avenues. Hamister, who is based in Buffalo, said banks are a “community asset” that have a responsibility to lift up all communities, including those where conditions have arisen that allow it to be a target of racism like the East Side.
“We operate under federal charters, so we have an obligation to the community to not only provide products and services they need but also support when you go through a tragedy like that,” Hamister said. “We also have a moral obligation to try to help when things are broken … and to do what we can. We can’t fix everything, but we’ve got to fix our piece and try to help where we can.”
In the wake of a tragedy
After the massacre, there was a flurry of activity within banks and other organizations, local and out-of-town, to respond to the immediate needs of East Side residents. With the community’s only supermarket closed indefinitely, much of the response centered around food collection and distribution. Three of M&T’s five East Side branches, including the Jefferson Avenue branch across the street from Tops, became food distribution sites for weeks after the shooting. On two consecutive Fridays, Northwest provided around 200 free lunches to the community, using a neighborhood caterer who is also the bank’s customer. And BankOnBuffalo collected employee donations that amounted to more than 20 boxes of toiletries and other items that were distributed to a nonprofit.
At the same time, M&T, KeyBank and other banks began financial donations to organizations that could support the immediate needs of the community. KeyBank provided a van that delivered food and took people to nearby grocery stores. Providence, Rhode Island-based Citizens Financial Group, whose ATM inside Tops was inaccessible during the store’s temporary closure, installed a fee-free ATM near a community center located about a half-mile north of Tops, and later put a permanent ATM inside the center that remains there today. And M&T rolled out a short-term loan program to provide capital to East Side small-business owners.
One of the funds that benefited from banks’ support was the Buffalo Together Community Response Fund, which has raised $6.2 million to address the long-term needs of the East Side.
Bank of America and Evans Bank each donated $100,000 to the fund, whose list of major sponsors includes four other banks — JPMorgan Chase, Citigroup, M&T and KeyBank. Thomas Beauford Jr., a former banker who is co-chair of the response fund, said banks, by and large, directed their resources into organizations where the dollars would have an immediate impact.
“Banks said, ‘Hey, you know … it doesn’t make sense for us to try to build something right now. … We will fund you in the work you’re doing,'” said Beauford, who has been president and CEO of the Buffalo Urban League since the fall of 2020. “I would say banks showed up in a big way.”
Fourteen months later, banks say they are committed to playing a positive role on the East Side. For the second year, KeyBank is sponsoring a farmers’ market on the East Side, an attempt to help fill the food desert in the community. Last fall, BankOnBuffalo launched a mobile “bank on wheels” truck that’s stationed on the East Side every Wednesday. The 34-foot-long truck, which is staffed by two people and includes an ATM and a printer to make debit cards, was in the works before the shooting, and will eventually make four stops per week around the Buffalo area.
Evans has partnered with the city of Buffalo to construct seven market-rate single family homes on vacant lots on the East Side. The relationship with the city is an example of how banks can pair up with other entities to create something meaningful and lasting, more than they might be able to do on their own, said Evans President and CEO David Nasca.
The bank has “picked areas” where it can use its resources to make a difference, Nasca said.
“I don’t think the root causes can be ameliorated” by banks alone, he said. “We can’t just grant money. It has to be within our construct of a financial institution that invests and supports the public-private partnership. … All the oars [need to be] pulling together or this doesn’t work.”
‘Little or no engagement with minorities’
All of these efforts are, of course, welcomed by the community, but there is still criticism that banks haven’t done enough to make up for their past contributions to segregating the city. And perhaps more importantly, some of that criticism centers on banks failing to do their most basic function in society — provide credit.
In 2021, the New York State Department of Financial Services issued a report about redlining in Buffalo. The regulator looked at banks and nonbank lenders and found that loans made to minorities in the Buffalo metro area made up 9.74% of total loans in Buffalo. Overall, Black residents comprise about 33% of Buffalo’s total population of more than 276,000, census data shows.
The department said its investigation showed the lower percentage was not due to “excessive denials of loan applications based on race or ethnicity,” but rather that “these companies had little or no engagement with minorities and generally made scant effort to do so.”
“The unsurprising result of this has been that few minority customers or individuals seeking homes in majority-minority neighborhoods have made loan applications … in the first instance.”
Furthermore, accusations of redlining persist today, even though the practice of discriminating in housing based on race was outlawed by the Fair Housing Act of 1968.
In 2014, Evans was accused of redlining by the New York State Attorney General, which said the community bank was specifically avoiding making mortgage loans on the East Side. The bank, which at the time had $874 million of assets, agreed to pay $825,000 to settle the case, but Nasca maintains that the charges were unfounded. He points to the fact that the bank never had a fair lending or fair housing violation, no specific incidents were ever claimed and that the bank’s Community Reinvestment Act exam never found evidence of discriminatory or illegal credit practices.
The bank has a greater presence on the East Side today, but that’s because it has grown in size, not because it is trying to make up for previous accusations of redlining, he said.
“Ten years ago, our involvement [on the East Side] certainly wasn’t what you’re seeing today,” Nasca said. “We were looking to participate more, but we were participating within our means and our reach. As we have grown, we have built more resources to be able to do more.”
Shortly after accusations were made against Evans, Five Star Bank, the banking arm of Financial Institutions in Warsaw, New York, was also accused of redlining by the state Attorney General. Five Star, which has been growing its presence in the Buffalo market for several years, wound up settling the charges for $900,000 and agreeing to open two branches in the city of Rochester.
KeyBank is currently being accused of redlining by the National Community Reinvestment Coalition. In a 2022 report, the group said that KeyBank is engaging in systemic redlining by making very few home purchase loans in certain neighborhoods where the majority of residents are Black. Buffalo is one of several cities where the bank’s mortgage lending “effectively wall[ed] out Black neighborhoods,” especially parts of the East Side, the report said.
KeyBank denied the allegations. In March, the coalition asked regulators to investigate the bank’s mortgage lending practices.
Beyond providing more credit, some community members believe that banks should be playing a larger role in addressing other needs on the East Side. And the list of needs runs the gamut from more grocery stores to safe, affordable housing to infrastructure improvements such as street and sidewalk repairs.
Alexander Wright is founder of the African Heritage Food Co-op, an initiative launched in 2016 to address the dearth of grocery store options on the East Side, where he grew up. Wright said that while banks’ philanthropic efforts are important, banks in general “need to be in a place of remediation” to fix underlying issues that the industry, as a whole, helped create. (After publication of this story, Wright left his job as CEO of the African Heritage Food Co-Op.)
Aside from charitable donations, banks should be finding more ways to work directly with East Side business owners and entrepreneurs, helping them with capital-building support along the way, Wright said. One place to start would be technical assistance by way of bank volunteers.
“Banks are always looking to volunteer. ‘Hey, want to come out and paint a fence? Want to come out and do a garden?'” Wright said. “No. Come out here and help Keshia with bookkeeping. Come out here and do QuickBooks classes for folks. Bring out tax experts. Because these are things that befuddle a lot of small businesses. Who is your marketing person? Bring that person out here. Because those are the things that are going to build the business to self-sufficiency.
“Anything short of the capacity-building … that will allow folks to rise to the occasion and be self-sufficient I think is almost a waste,” Wright added. “We don’t need them to lead the plan. What we need them to do is be in the community and [be] hearing the plan and supporting it.”
Parker, of Open Buffalo, has similar thoughts about the role that banks should play. One day, soon after the massacre, an ATM appeared down the street from Tops, next to the library that sits across the street from Parker’s office. Soon after the ATM was installed, Parker began fielding questions from area residents who were skeptical of the machine and wanted to know if it was legitimate. But Parker didn’t have any information to share with them. “There was no outreach. There was no community engagement. So I’m like, ‘Let me investigate,'” she said. “I think that’s a symptom of how investment is done in Black communities, even though it may be well-intentioned.”
As it turns out, the temporary ATM belonged to JPMorgan Chase. The megabank has had a commercial banking presence in Buffalo for years, but it didn’t operate a retail branch in the region until last year. Today it has four branches in operation and plans to open another two by the end of the year, a spokesperson said.
After the Tops shooting, the governor’s office reached out to Chase asking if the bank could help in some way, the spokesperson said in response to the skepticism. The spokesperson said that while the Chase retail brand is new to the Buffalo region, the company has been active in the market for decades by way of commercial banking, private banking, credit card lending, home lending and other businesses.
In addition to the ATM, the bank provided funding to local organizations including FeedMore Western New York, which distributes food throughout the region.
“We are committed to continuing our support for Buffalo and helping the community increase access to opportunities that build wealth and economic empowerment,” the spokesperson said in an email.
In the year since the massacre, there has been some progress by banks in terms of their interest in listening to the East Side community and learning about its needs, said Nicholas. But he hasn’t felt an air of urgency from the banking community to tackle the issues right now.
“I do experience banks being a little more open to figuring out what their role is, but it’s slow. It’s slow,” said Nicholas. The senior pastor of the Lincoln Memorial United Methodist Church, located about a mile north from Tops, Nicholas is part of a 13-member local advisory committee for the New York arm of Local Initiatives Support Coalition, or LISC. The group is focused on mobilizing resources, including banks, to address affordable housing in Western New York, specifically in the inner city, as well as training minority developers and connecting them to potential investors, Nicholas said.
Of the 13 members, seven are from banks — one each from M&T, Bank of America, BankOnBuffalo, Evans and KeyBank, and two members from Citizens Financial Group. One of the priorities of LISC NY is health equity, and the fact that banks are becoming more engaged in looking at health disparities is promising, Nicholas said. Still, they have more work to do, he said.
“I need them to think more on how to strengthen and build the economy on the East Side and provide leadership around that, not only to provide charitable things, but using sound business and banking and community development principles to say, ‘OK, if we’re going to invest in this community, these are the types of things that need to happen in this community,’ and then encourage their partners and other people they work with … to come fully in on the East Side.”
Some bankers agree with the community activists.
“Putting a branch in is great. Having a bank on wheels is great,” said Noah of BankOnBuffalo. “But if you’re not embedded in the community, listening to the community and trying to improve it, you’re not creating that wealth and creating a better lifestyle for everyone.”
What could make a substantial difference in terms of banks’ impact on the community is a combination of collaboration and leadership, said Taylor. He supports the idea of banks leading the charge on the creation of a comprehensive redevelopment and reinvestment plan for the East Side, and then investing accordingly and collaboratively through their charitable foundations.
“All of them have these foundations,” Taylor said. “You can either spend that money in a strategic and intentional way designed to develop a community for the existing population, or you can spend that money alone in piecemeal, siloed, sectorial fashion that will look good on an annual report, but won’t generate transformational and generational changes inside a community.”
Banks might be incentivized to work together because it could mean two things for them, according to Taylor: First, they’d have an opportunity to spend money in a way that would have maximum impact on the East Side, and second, if done right, the city and the banks could become a model of the way to create high levels of diversity, equity and inclusion in an urban area.
“If you prove how to do that, all that does is open up other markets of consumption all over the country because people want to figure out how to do that same thing,” Taylor said.
Some of that is already happening, at least on a bank-by-bank case, said KeyBank’s Owunwanne. Through the KeyBank Foundation, the company is able to leverage different relationships that connect nonprofits to other entities and corporations that can provide help.
“I see this as an opportunity for us to make not just incremental changes, but monumental changes … as part of a larger group,” Owunwanne said “Again, I say that not to absolve the bank of any responsibility, but just as a larger group.”
Downstairs from Parker’s office, Golden Cup Coffee, a roastery and cafe run by a husband and wife team, and some other Jefferson Avenue businesses are trying to build up a business association for existing and potential Jefferson-area businesses. Parker imagined what the group could accomplish if one of the banks could provide someone on a part-time basis to facilitate conversations, provide administrative support and coordinate marketing efforts.
“In the grand scheme of things, when we’re talking about a multimillion dollar [bank], a part-time employee specifically dedicated to relationship-building and building out coalitions, it sounds like a small thing,” Parker said. “But that’s transformational.”
This is a guest post from Shiva, who wrote to offer some advice on how to shop for prescription medicine: don’t assume that the new new stuff is better!
I am a general internist — a physician who provides primary care to adult patients — and am on the faculty of a medical school, where I teach medical students and residents. One of my interests is the excess marketing and use of expensive yet marginally effective prescription drugs.
I have found in clinical practice that the most effective medications tend to actually be “tried and true” ones approved over ten years ago with thousands of patient years of post marketing safety and efficacy data available. Rarely is the latest the greatest.
Unfortunately (this is hard for me to admit), my profession has been overrun by the pharmaceutical industry — you are very likely to be prescribed expensive brand name medications that are no more effective (in some cases less effective and/or less safe) than older, cheaper, and more thoroughly studied medications.
Here are two websites I recently found from Consumer Reports and Public Citizen that summarize the costs and benefits of various drugs prescribed for common conditions. They do it better than most reviews in the medical literature:
Consumer Reports Best Buy Drugs — “Free guidance for consumers on prescription medications.”
worstpills.org — “Your expert, independent second opinion for prescription drug information.”
While physicians should be looking out for their patients regarding out-of-pocket costs, the reality is most physicians don’t even know ball-park prices of the medications we prescribe.
Given the underinsured status of many Americans — especially related to pharmacy benefits — meeting your doctor armed with information about the relative cost-effectiveness of the drugs for your condition is essential for both your physical and financial health. And in terms of drug advertising, I recommend ignoring the magazine, newspaper, and television ads. We can all become “branded” within the blink of an eye. Don’t let the flashy advertising dollars sell you on what’s best for your health.
Remember: Check for coupons and rebates before having your prescriptions filled.
The west coast is currently being ravaged by wildfires, including five of the top ten largest wildfires in California history so far. These devastating fires have burned down hundreds of millions of acres of land, resulting in at least 36 casualties and the loss of homes, businesses, and other structures. The entire west coast is experiencing unhealthy air quality, and smoke has reached as far as the east coast and even Europe.
Aside from the immediate consequences in terms of property damage and loss of life, wildfires also have a far-reaching economic impact. From the ongoing costs related to fire suppression and prevention to the loss of revenue, expensive repairs, and insurance hikes that inevitably follow, these fires have lasting financial repercussions.
The current wildfires will have an economic impact on both a local and a national level. While states including California, Oregon, and Washington are some of the most likely to be affected by wildfires, the financial fallout has the potential to be even more widespread.
What’s Ahead:
Fire suppression costs are rising
Battling wildfires is an expensive business, and the cost to fight fires has soared from tens of millions to hundreds of millions in recent years as destructive wildfires have become more and more common.
With 2020 on track to be one of the most devastating wildfire seasons on record, the cost just to get fires under control continues to climb.
You’ll see insurance hikes
As wildfires become more common in areas across the western United States, homeowners insurance and fire insurance is getting more expensive as a result. Some homeowners who live in fire-prone areas are unable to secure insurance coverage at all, with insurance companies canceling policies in high-risk areas.
Those who are able to secure insurance will likely face increased premiums as insurance companies attempt to cover the costs of current and future wildfire seasons.
If you live in an at-risk area for wildfires, you need to make sure you have the right insurance in place to cover all of your bases. Policygenius can help you double-check that you have the right type and amount of coverage for your home – and that you’re paying the best price for it.
Temporary power cuts have affected businesses
Power companies like Pacific Gas & Electric have implemented temporary planned power shutoffs in areas where its equipment is in danger of sparking wildfires. PG&E equipment has sparked over 1,500 fires from 2014 to 2017, and officials expect continued power cuts to be a regular feature of fire seasons to come.
These power cuts can have a negative economic impact when they prevent individuals and businesses from operating as normal. While the company is working toward implementing smaller, less disruptive cuts than the power outages that caused multi-day blackouts in 2018, power cuts will still affect tens of thousands of California residents.
Businesses are also seeing a loss of revenue
The wildfires sweeping across much of the western part of the country also have a severe impact when it comes to the loss of revenue. Many businesses aren’t able to operate normally or at all, and may find it difficult to reopen in the aftermath of the fires while also dealing with other issues such as the pandemic.
Wildfires also decrease the revenue brought in by tourism, which affects everything from restaurants and small businesses to hotels and state parks.
Expensive repairs will be needed
Costly repairs will be necessary for areas where wildfires have burned down buildings and damaged infrastructure. The 2018 wildfire season caused over $40 billion worth of damage, and the 2020 season is on track to cause even more damage.
The cost of the repairs is felt both by individuals whose property has been damaged as well as government agencies responsible for repairing infrastructure and cleaning up debris.
Healthcare costs will rise for those impacted by the fires
Other indirect costs of the wildfires include the healthcare costs associated with treating injuries related to the disaster. This includes treating not only those who were directly injured by the fires themselves, but also those who inhale too much smoke and those who are injured in accidents while evacuating.
Extreme wildfires cause hazardous air quality that can lead to coughs, headaches, and shortness of breath in the short term, and chronic inflammation, heart attacks, and strokes in the long term. Those with preexisting conditions like asthma or compromised immune systems are especially vulnerable.
Economic instability may increase
A report from the Commodity Futures Trading Commission predicts that the increased frequency and intensity of natural disasters like wildfires could result in further economic instability. These disasters can have a negative impact on many disparate areas of the economy including agriculture, infrastructure, residential and commercial property, and the health and wellbeing of American citizens.
Wildfire prevention costs will rise
While strategies implemented to help prevent or curb future wildfires like controlled burns and thinning are necessary, they’re also expensive. California recently passed a bill dedicating $1 billion toward fire prevention over the course of five years, but experts warn that even that amount may not be enough to curtail future fires.
There are many personal costs as well
While it’s not an easy thing to affix a number to, increasingly devastating wildfire seasons also take a tremendous personal toll, from people grieving lost loved ones to those whose houses burned down to those dealing with anxiety and depression caused by the fires.
These losses are often exacerbated by compounding issues like the ongoing coronavirus pandemic, economic inequality, and the effects of climate change.
How to protect your finances from the impact of natural disasters
Experts predict that wildfires and other natural disasters like heat waves and hurricanes will only become more prevalent as climate change continues to accelerate. People all over the world will be negatively affected by these catastrophic events – especially if they live in places with a high risk of fire, floods, or other disasters.
Here are some steps to take in order to prepare for future disasters and keep your finances secure in the face of an increasingly uncertain world.
Make sure you have the right insurance coverage
Insurance coverage for your property is especially important if you live in an area that may be at risk of wildfires. Even if you already have insurance, it’s still a good idea to shop around and compare different policies in order to ensure that you’re getting a good deal.
Again, online tools like Policygenius make it easy to research and compare different insurance options.
Maintain a healthy emergency fund
Experts recommend that you save between three and six months worth of living expenses in an emergency fund. This financial cushion can be a major safety net when it comes to literal emergencies like wildfires as well as other unexpected expenses.
While it can be difficult to increase your savings in a time of increasing economic inequality, it’s a good idea to try to put a little away each month so that you have something to fall back on in case of hard times.
Pack an emergency bag and it keep it up to date
If you live in an area that is prone to natural disasters, you should pack an emergency bag and keep it up to date, including essential such as:
First aid kit.
Drinking water.
Non-perishable food.
A change of comfortable clothes.
Toiletries.
Medications.
Cash.
Mask.
Radio.
Flashlight.
Local maps.
Phone charger and extra battery pack.
Be sure to keep your bag up to date and to swap out any items that are too old or in danger of expiring. You may want to prepare several kits to keep with you at home, in your car, and any other place you spend a lot of time in, such as your workplace or a relative’s house.
Secure important documents
Replacing important documents can be stressful if you have to leave your house during an emergency. You should keep documents in a secure, safe place that you can access quickly if you need to.
Some important documents you may want to take with you include your social security card, birth certificate, passport, and insurance information.
When it comes to other documents like bills and financial statements, consider switching to paperless billing so that you’re able to access them electronically in the case of an emergency.
See if your qualify for tax relief or other forms of aid
If you’ve experienced financial losses due to a federally declared disaster, you may be able to deduct it on your taxes. There are also a variety of wildfire relief funds and resources available, including:
The Disaster Cash Assistance Program for Washington state residents.
Disaster loan assistance for business owners from the SBA.
FEMA Disaster Assistance.
Red Cross shelters for those impacted by natural disasters.
The California Association of Food Banks.
Masks, medicine, and other resources from Direct Relief.
Disaster Unemployment Assistance for California residents.
Summary
Some experts estimate that the damage caused by the 2020 wildfire season will have a direct cost of over $20 billion, not including the many indirect costs associated with the fires, such as insurance hikes and loss of revenue. As wildfires continue to increase due to drought, warmer temperatures, and shorter winters, they are sure to have far-reaching effects on the economy.
While many aspects of natural disasters are beyond your control, you can stay prepared by reviewing your insurance coverage, packing an emergency bag, and building up your emergency fund.
What could be worse if childbirth is considered one of life’s greatest pains? It turns out that people actually have a long list of experiences that rival labor pain! From dental work to broken bones, we’ll discuss the 15 most painful things—and why they may hurt more than expected. Whether you’re looking for an informative read or simply some good storytelling, this blog post will provide an engaging look into just how strong people can be when faced with a considerable amount of pain.
1. Kidney Stones
One user shared a story, “My mom always makes a point to remind me that she birthed me naturally with no pain medications or the like and that she was in labor with me for 22 hours, with contractions starting the first hour, and it was quite a pain. Eight or so years later, she had a few large kidney stones and said it was way worse.”
One user replied, “Side note, I don’t get parents who hold a difficult birth over their kids, as though they had something to do with it. It’s always like, ‘Well, who was the adult in that situation?’ Don’t get me started on parents who hold providing food and shelter over their kids—like congrats on doing your legal and ethical obligations.”
Another user added, “I think moms like to use it as a status symbol, kind of. I think it can be cute if you’re just playfully saying something like, ‘And you took 36 hours to get here!!! Yeesh!!’ Rather than, ‘You ruined my body, and now I hate myself.’ I personally have a 1-year-old, and my labor was a really fun experience, but I will totally let my son know that his head was huge and got stuck when he’s older.”
2. Old Age with Long-Term Ailments
“My wife thought the last month of pregnancy was worse than giving birth. She said giving birth was more painful that day, but the constant tiredness and back pain was a worse experience for her. Makes me think of all those people, especially old people, with long-term ailments having to go on each day with pain,” one user shared.
Another commenter replied, “I have given birth 3 times, and I agree. The fear of the pain of labor evaporates when every day is a painful struggle, and you want to be done having that watermelon INSIDE, lol. That’s my theory on why [it’s so terrible] towards the end of pregnancy; we are happier to give birth.”
However, one Redditor said, “I’ve never been pregnant, but I have chronic pain. My best friend is currently 8 months pregnant and was complaining about it all to me a few weeks ago; she then abruptly stopped mid-sentence (I honestly thought she went into labor, lol) and, with tears in her eyes, went, ‘Is this how you feel all the time?’ Then she started sobbing; I was so shocked as she’s not normally a crier. Her husband heard her crying and came into the room to see her on FaceTime with me, gave her a hug, and mouthed ‘hormones!’ to me. It was all I could do not to burst out laughing.”
Another user commented, “That is possibly the kindest thing anybody could do for me. Realizing every day hurts and just feels something for me.”
3. Being Burned
One user shared, “Burning Alive.”
Another commenter replied, “From what I understand about it, your nerves burn first, so it’s usually fairly quick and painless. Surviving it, on the other hand.”
“That’s probably something they tell the families to make them feel better. You have nerves throughout the entirety of you… As far as quick……. well, that would depend entirely on how much of you is burning and how quickly. Yeeted into a volcano like Gollum? Yea, probably pretty quick. Pinned under a car…? Probably not very quick,” one person commented.
Another Redditor also exclaimed, “I know a powerful and resilient young man who accidentally flew his glider into power lines and survived. I think he would agree with you on that one.”
4. Losing Your Child and Wrongful Imprisonment
One user commented, “A dingo eating your baby, and you getting a prison sentence for it because no one believes you.”
Another user replied, “Also, the case of that mother recently, but it turns out they had a rare disease that looked like she had poisoned them.”
One commenter added, “His explanation ‘dingo’ over well with the jury.”
“Her. It was a woman who was jailed. It’s a real Australian case,” another person added.
5. Being Eaten
One Redditor added to the thread, “Being skinned alive.”
“Being eaten alive by a bear because they can. Lions and tigers will at least make it quick to the jugular,” replied another user.
One commenter added, “Hyenas will hold you down and eat your [butt] end first. Can’t imagine how anything could be much worse.”
6. Dog Bite
One Redditor commented, “I’ve had toothaches—pulled my tooth once. I’ve been burned and splattered with hot grease. I’ve broken bones and had a road rash. I have a pretty high tolerance for pain. But hands down, the most painful thing I have ever experienced is Dog Bite. It was the most excruciating pain I have ever felt. The massive compression combined with [breaking the bones in my hand]. Just when you think it might be over, [and the dog uses] its whole body to gain leverage… I had never screamed in my life until a pit bit my hand. I didn’t even recognize my own voice. It was the most guttural terrifying scream I had ever heard, and I couldn’t believe it came from me. Lol, Pray to god you never get bit by a really aggressive dog.
“Edit: (spelling) If you do get attacked, don’t scream it makes them even angrier.”
Another user asked, “What should one do in this scenario? Fight back? Punch the dog? Kick it?”
One user answered, “If your arm is being bitten by a dog, pressure your arm into the dog’s mouth instead of trying to rip your arm out. It puts the dog at a disadvantage because you’re applying pressure in a way they can’t counter very easily. Otherwise, yelp and try to hit their sensitive areas. Otherwise, refer yourself to these tips.”
“I’d like to add to that—if you force enough arm into the dog’s mouth to make him hyperextend his jaw, he will die. So if an aggressive dog is biting you, hyperextend his jaw. He will stop biting you,” another user shared.
7. Bullet Ants
One user posted, “According to science, and maybe this is in the comments, but I can’t believe I haven’t seen it yet… Bullet Ants. Neurotoxins cause pain several magnitudes beyond what you can experience via physical trauma…not to mention you would’ve passed out long ago had the pain derived from a physical source. Also, Irukandji jellyfish for the same reasons….”
Another user replied, “I came here, say bullet ants. I am allergic to painkillers and anesthesia. I have had all sorts of shit done, including getting my wisdom teeth pulled, and nothing is anywhere close to the bite of those f-ers.
“I don’t even know how to put into words how painful it was. It’s like your brain is causing pain, and basic functions are overwritten by pain. Even thinking about it makes me feel on edge. It’s been 14 years since it happened.”
8. Losing a Child
One user shared, “Losing a child.”
Another user replied, “Can confirm. My daughter is a missing person, and even that hurts.”
One user added, “Late miscarriage/stillbirth… All the discomfort of pregnancy, the same childbirth pains, the same long recovery time, and permanent bodily changes… But no baby.”
“My early miscarriage was comparable to childbirth as well. I was writhing in pain. I had no idea what was going on, so I think that part made it worse. With childbirth, you pretty much know what to expect and have read techniques on managing,” commented another user.
9. Pancreatitis
Another user posted, “Pancreatitis.”
One user replied, “Scrolled for this, screamed like a banshee in the ER.”
“So few have had this. There are not many upvotes that cheer me up and simultaneously scare the shit out of me (not many Whipple procedures being successfully done out there/impossible to operate on organ.) So much pain. Thanks to alcoholism for me, but at least I’m sober now… (7 years baby!)” another Redditor added.
10. Gout
“Apparently gout,” one commenter shared.
Another user added, “Gout varies a lot. I’ve never given birth, but apparently, mothers with gout often say gout is worse. My first gout attack—yeah, that was some next-level pain. I passed out from it. I can believe that might have been worse than giving birth. One or two since have been very bad, but not that bad. But most… I mean, they suck, don’t get me wrong, but I can’t imagine they hurt more than dropping a sprog.”
Another user replied, “Gout flare-ups [are terrible], that’s for sure.”
11. Lung Cancer
One user added to the thread, “Waking up after lung cancer surgery where they removed parts of 3 ribs, some chest plates, and 30% of a lung. They had to give me crazy levels of morphine and ketamine round the clock for the best part of a week. Still on pain meds 6 years later.”
12. Testicular Torsion
One user shared, “There’s only one thing in the running: Testicular torsion. It’s when a testicle gets twisted—think like twisting an apple so that the stem comes out. Considered to be one of the most painful things people can experience.”
Another Redditor replied, “I had testicular torsion when I was 14. I woke up at around 3:00 am, and I was shaking and had a lot of trouble standing. I went to my parent’s room to wake them up, and we went to the emergency room. It felt like just pure weakness and inability to move because if you accidentally moved wrong, it was over. Maybe I suppressed the rest, but I just remember waking up after the surgery was done and feeling so much better. The thing I’m most scared of is pain, and that was one of the worst experiences I’ve had.”
One person commented, “My pop, mid-80s, had this last year. Ex-military, ex-athlete, and had lots of broken bones in his life, he said this was by FAR the worst pain he has ever had. Slept in a recliner for a few months. Mine is easier, did a farmer blow to clear my nose on a cold New Year’s ever in Colo as a 12-year-old? Both eardrums blew from the inside out the next day. Was deaf for 6 months. Doc gave me a note (deaf, after all), then stated I would never again experience this level of pain. The closest I have come since was sciatica. All that said, I ain’t a woman, so I obv cannot speak to the pain of pregnancy.”
13. Almond Wedged into the Root of a Tooth
“I will never know, but when I bit down on an almond, which cracked my tooth and wedged a sliver of almond down into the root, and I needed emergency tooth pulling, the woman who was assisting the dentist afterward told me that the pain I just went through for over an hour and a half was pain she had endured in almost the same fashion, and she said to me that it was worse for her than childbirth. I have no idea if she was just saying that to make me feel better, but I don’t wish that level and intensity and duration of pain on anyone, not even Donald Trump,” one commenter posted.
Another user replied, “Kindred souls, I guess (esp your last statement, haha). I came in after biting into a chicken strip of all things, but I can only describe the feeling as like someone shoving a razor blade into my gums. It shot a shock throughout my body. The dentist looking at it, said, ‘I don’t know if I’ve ever described a tooth as angry, but this tooth is angry.’”
14. Opioid Withdrawals
One person shared, “Opioid withdrawals.”
Another user replied, “This is an interesting reply. That’s probably a type of pain that’s hard for most people to conceptualize. The mental aspects of it must be crazy too.”
“I came up with it because I’ve been through it myself. Most women I’ve spoken to said they’d prefer childbirth over it. It’s awful,” one Redditor commented.
15. Broken Femur
One user posted, “Getting your femur broken.”
Another user replied, “I broke my lower leg playing baseball. It was like Moisés Alou’s leg break, except it was done by a kid attempting a take-out slide on me. I snapped my tibia and fibula and dislocated my ankle. My hospital roommate broke his femur dirt biking. He had to get surgery. I think the hospital staff put us in the same room to humor themselves. He couldn’t make it through the night. He was in so much pain. The nurse put him on an opiate drip. His cast also had to suck because it went all the way up to his hip and groin.”
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The last thing you want to think about before packing your bags and sailing away on your dream cruise vacation is what would happen if you got sick while on board the ship.
But unfortunately, people do get sick while on vacation. They can also injure themselves or become ill enough that they need to return home.
That’s why it’s prudent to invest in a cruise travel insurance policy and be prepared for the unexpected. It’s also a good idea to know what onboard medical care your ship can and cannot provide in an emergency. It’s especially important if you’re traveling in far-flung locales that may not have adequate medical facilities – when you can even go ashore.
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TPG reached out to several cruise lines, from mass-market companies to smaller luxury ships and expedition lines, but few wanted to comment directly on this topic in response to our questions. Some declined, while others referred us to their websites, where you can find basic information under the FAQs sections on what their ships typically offer regarding medical assistance.
If you want to know the specifics about getting a COVID-19 test on board or what would happen if you broke an arm or needed to be airlifted to a medical facility while cruising, we have direct answers from three cruise lines – MSC Cruises, Holland America Line and Azamara. We’ve also compiled general information from several lines with detailed information on their websites.
Here’s what you need to know before you go, so you can feel confident that you’ll have competent and comprehensive medical care if you fall ill while cruising on the high seas.
Do cruise ships have medical centers, and who works in them?
All ocean-going ships have medical centers staffed with trained professionals, so medical care is accessible when you’re on board the ship. The facilities and what they offer will vary, depending on the size of the ship and the number of passengers and crew.
For example, according to Royal Caribbean’s website, their medical centers are staffed with two or three licensed physicians and three to five licensed nurses 24 hours a day. The staff may be international or U.S.-based. The website also states, “All Royal Caribbean Group (Royal Caribbean, Celebrity and Silversea) ships are built, staffed, stocked and equipped to meet or exceed guidelines established by the American College of Emergency Physicians Cruise Ship & Maritime Medicine Section.”
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A clinical staff from multiple nationalities works in MSC Cruises’ facilities. The medical professionals also adhere to the standards prescribed by the American College of Emergency Physicians – Cruise Ship Medicine Section Guidelines.
Holland America’s medical centers are staffed with a team of experienced physicians and nurses that can manage a broad range of conditions. The onboard facilities are fully equipped with testing and treatment capabilities, and the team has a close working relationship with the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the U.K.’s National Health Service, regional and local public health agencies and the University of Texas Medical Branch. These associations benefit both the guests and their employees.
Azamara’s spokesperson tells us that the medical facility on board its four boutique ships offers “enhanced equipment, isolation staterooms that provide comfortable and complimentary care, onboard testing capabilities and telehealth medical support. Guests who fall ill will meet with the medical team, which is typically at least one registered physician and one nurse, who will then develop a multi-level response plan.”
Viking’s website also states that its ocean and expedition vessels have upgraded state-of-the-art medical facilities with specialized equipment.
It’s best to contact the company directly if you’re traveling with a smaller cruise or expedition line and want information on specific capabilities and the medical services they offer should you become ill or injured. Many smaller ships sail close to shore, so additional medical facilities will be available in port. However, this won’t be an option when sailing expeditions to remote destinations like Antarctica or the Arctic.
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Do I need an appointment to see a doctor on board?
You should visit the medical center if you have a persistent sore throat, headache, fever, body aches or an upset stomach that could be the flu or a contagious virus, such as COVID-19 or norovirus. If you’ve tripped or fallen and have a swollen ankle or hand, you should also seek medical care.
According to a representative for MSC Cruises, you don’t need an appointment to go to the onboard medical centers. Walk-ins are welcome 24/7, but you can also make an appointment.
MSC’s spokesperson recommends seeing someone if you’re not feeling well, and they tell us their staff can handle a “spectrum of medical situations ranging from routine general practice cases and medical emergencies to those requiring intensive care.”
Holland America guests can dial the emergency number on their cabin phone 24 hours a day for medical assistance.
Azamara’s medical centers are open twice a day for walk-ins. If you need to see someone during off hours, guest services can call an on-duty nurse.
On a Carnival Cruise Line ship, medical staff is on call 24 hours a day for emergencies. On sea days, you can visit the medical center between 9 a.m. and noon and again between 3 and 6 p.m. On port days, the facility is open from 8 to 10 a.m. and from 4 to 6 p.m.
According to its website, Princess Cruises’ ships also have medical centers staffed by full-time registered physicians and nurses. The facilities are open twice daily, and they provide 24-hour emergency care.
Can you get a COVID-19, flu or strep test on the ship?
Most cruise lines, including those mentioned above, can perform various tests, as needed, as part of the medical services offered. These include testing for COVID-19, flu, strep or other suspected illnesses.
Some lines, like Azamara, offer COVID-19 testing without a medical consultation, while others, such as MSC Cruises and Holland America, do not offer walk-in testing. Guests must see a physician first to determine if testing is necessary.
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“The onboard physician may recommend a test for COVID-19 if one’s symptoms suggest the possibility of a Covid infection,” shares a Holland America spokesperson in an email. “We encourage our guests to purchase their self-tests before traveling and bring them aboard. In that way, if they have any concerns, they may test themselves and protect their family, fellow guests and our crew. Of course, we do request they notify the medical staff if they test positive.”
Can I get medications on board the ship?
If you forgot to pack basic over-the-counter medications, such as aspirin, ibuprofen, allergy medications or antacids, these items are typically available in one of the shops on the ship or at the medical center. You should also be able to find them at a pharmacy in port when you go ashore.
If you’ve forgotten prescription medications and need a prescription filled, you’ll have to visit the medical center to see a nurse or a physician. A cruise ship can’t stock all possible medications, so you might need to accept an alternative.
Cruise lines aren’t going to release their formularies, but they probably have prescription medications for the most common ailments such as high blood pressure, cholesterol, diabetes and thyroid disease. They also stock antibiotics for infections.
If you have another medical condition, you may not find the appropriate medicines to treat it on board. On its website, Carnival advises that its ships may not have certain medications and vitamins available. If you forgot your medications and they’re not stocked on your ship, you must visit a medical facility ashore.
MSC Cruises urges passengers to bring any required medications for their journey from home. If they forget or need something, over-the-counter medications are available in the retail spaces. Guests will find some medicines at the reception desk for minor ailments like motion sickness. They can visit the medical center for other requests, such as basic prescription medications inadvertently left at home.
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In addition to over-the-counter medications available at the retail shops, such as pain medications for headaches, cough drops or upset stomachs, doctors at Holland America’s medical centers can prescribe and dispense basic medications you may have forgotten. They also have medication to treat severe illnesses until a guest is better or until they can be brought ashore for treatment.
Some over-the-counter medications, including antacids and ibuprofen, are available to guests at the medical center on Azamara’s ships. If a guest needs a prescription medication, it can be prescribed after a consultation.
Carnival sells over-the-counter medications for colds, coughs and upset stomachs at the medical center, or in some cases, at the retail shops. Its ships also have motion sickness pills available (for a fee) through room service, guest services or the medical center. In extreme cases, they can administer a shot for motion sickness.
The line also offers complimentary medi-coolers to store prescription items that must be kept at a specific temperature. They are available in limited quantities with a $75 deposit. You can request one once you’re on board the ship.
What if I fall and break a bone or need stitches?
The trained staff at the ship’s medical center can handle injuries, such as broken bones or deep cuts that require stitches. If the injury is more severe, the medical team can stabilize a guest until the ship reaches the port and the patient can be transferred off the ship.
MSC Cruises’ onboard medical centers can handle a spectrum of medical situations, including the initial management of fractures and suturing of lacerations, a spokesperson explained.
Holland America’s medical centers are also well-equipped to care for guests that need immediate medical attention, much like an urgent care center at home. Their ships have X-ray machines, and the medical teams are trained to operate radiology and lab equipment.
Azamara can also handle these types of injuries, says a spokesperson for the line. In the case of a broken bone or orthopedic injury, the onboard provider will also recommend that the guest follows up with an orthopedic referral at the next available port.
“While Azamara’s onboard staff is available to help with any medical issues that arise, the medical facilities are not intended as clinics for guests,” a spokesperson says. “Azamara is not responsible for the diagnosis, treatment or services furnished by shipboard medical personnel, who are independent contractors.”
What if I’m really sick and need a specialist or hospital?
The medical staff on oceangoing vessels are trained to handle emergency situations such as a heart attack or stroke and they have defibrillators and other life-saving equipment on board in case of such emergencies.
MSC Cruises’ vessels are equipped with intensive care facilities where guests can be stabilized and cared for until the passenger can be transferred to a hospital. If the ship is at sea, the ship’s captain and medical staff will need to decide how the passenger will be evacuated. Options may include a diversion of the ship to the nearest port, a boat transfer or, if necessary, a helicopter evacuation.
“The decision is influenced by a variety of external factors, like weather, distance to land and resource availability,” an MSC Cruises spokesperson told TPG. “The decision is also made by consulting with local shoreside maritime authorities.”
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Holland America also has established and well-practiced medical protocols surrounding treating seriously ill passengers. “In situations that require referral to shoreside hospitals, the shipboard treating doctors evaluate suitable options by medevac,” a company spokesperson said.
The line works with local emergency services to arrange for the patient to be picked up and transferred to a designated shoreside medical facility when necessary. The care team will also continue to assist and support the disembarked guest and their traveling companions.
Azamara will also assist in bringing guests that need additional care to a hospital as quickly as possible. The onboard team will request an airlift if necessary (depending on the location). Since the line’s itineraries include more time in port, ships are typically close to land. Azamara will also follow up with the guest to ensure they receive the necessary care.
Royal Caribbean Group’s physicians and nurses are required to maintain Advanced Cardiac Life Support (ACLS) training. “In responding to medical emergencies, our goal is to first stabilize emergency patients and, when necessary, evacuate the patient to an appropriately equipped and staffed shoreside medical facility,” its website says.
Will insurance cover me if I get sick on a cruise?
You’ll be charged a fee for service if you need to visit a physician or nurse during your cruise. Cruise ships don’t file insurance claims, so you’ll have to do that directly with your insurance company once you’re home. Princess’ website clearly states that charges for medical services will be added to your shipboard account and that guests will receive an itemized bill to send to their insurance company.
This is one of the reasons to invest in travel insurance when you travel. Your regular health insurance policy may or may not cover you when you’re traveling outside the country — or will only cover some but not all of your expenses. Some insurance plans, like Medicare, won’t cover you outside the U.S. except for a few specific emergency circumstances. A travel insurance policy with good medical coverage can make up the difference or reimburse you for medical bills your regular insurance won’t.
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Bottom line
It’s advisable to bring emergency supplies with you when you cruise because you never know what might happen. You’ll want to pack essential over-the-counter medications, such as ibuprofen, aspirin, antacids and allergy medications. If you think you may need any of these medicines during your vacation, you’ll want to have them on hand, so you won’t need to pay high prices on the ship or schedule a consultation with a doctor in order to get them.
You might also want to bring a COVID-19 test with you or any braces or assistive devices you occasionally use. It will be much cheaper to bring them from home than to purchase them on board.
Also, consider purchasing a travel insurance policy to cover the cost of medical care that your regular health policy won’t reimburse you for when traveling, especially when you’re out of the country. Depending on the policy, you can also recover some of the expense of the trip if you have to return home early.
It’s important to know that if you fall ill or become injured during your vacation, you can get medical care on board the ship for many situations – or at least be stabilized until the medical team and crew can transfer you ashore to a hospital or emergency facility.
It’s best to check with each cruise line before traveling to understand their policies, especially if you have a preexisting condition that could flare up while on the cruise. Be sure to ask what medical care is available specifically on the ship you’ll be sailing on, as older and smaller vessels may have different facilities and capabilities than the newer and larger ships.
With an overall cost of living that’s 7.1 percent below the national average, Birmingham offers residents all the perks of a happening Southern town with a slightly lower price tag.
In a thriving cultural scene that includes art, live performances and museums, there’s never a shortage of entertainment. Additionally, places like the Birmingham Zoo and McWane Science Center offer up family-friendly fun.
The city is also a big center for college football. Within the city limits, you can cheer on the team at the University of Alabama at Birmingham, while the Auburn University Tigers have a home-field advantage just over two hours away.
With so much to see and do, Birmingham is definitely a growing city, but even with a cost of living slightly below the national average, would living here fit into your budget?
This is how the individual costs of living in Birmingham stack up.
Housing costs in Birmingham
It’s nice to know that Birmingham expenses are pretty accessible when it comes to housing. Average prices are 17.2 percent below the national average. This is considerably lower than nearby major cities like Atlanta, whose average housing price is 13 percent above the national average.
Although rent prices are rising for both one-bed and two-bed apartments, average rent remains within a reasonable range. The average monthly rent for a one-bedroom apartment in Birmingham is $1,424, up 27 percent over last year. You can rent a two-bedroom apartment for an average of $1,259 per month, up only 12 percent over last year.
Even with these accessible prices, you can still find housing in Birmingham at a variety of price points based on what neighborhood you decide to call home.
If renting isn’t on your agenda, but home ownership is, the median price in Birmingham for a house is $247,556, up only 0.4 percent over last year.
Apartment hunting
Figuring out where to live in Birmingham means looking at neighborhoods in all different areas. You want the ideal location and a lot to do but also need an affordable price. Birmingham delivers plenty of options including the popular and historic neighborhood of Highland Park. This local gem has an average one-bedroom apartment rent of only $969 per month.
The highest one-bedroom price tag in Birmingham goes to Central City, with an average monthly price of $1,973. Including a small chunk of the downtown area, this neighborhood has a great location.
For those looking for a more budget-friendly community, average one-beds in Red Mountain are only $800 per month. This neighborhood includes Red Mountain Park, top-rated dining and plenty of family-friendly fun.
Food prices
Another source for delicious Southern cuisine, Birmingham definitely has signature dishes you must try. They include things like Greek meatballs, fried green tomatoes and, of course, barbecue. Whether you’re eating out or shopping for groceries, though, food prices in Birmingham are nine percent below the national average. That’s a 6.8 percent drop over the previous year.
To understand how this may impact your grocery list, shopping for staple items in Birmingham most likely means paying pretty reasonable prices. Ground beef is only $5.31 per pound, and a half gallon of milk averages out at $2.25. A dozen eggs are only $1.48 on average, and a loaf of bread is only $2.89.
These prices are definitely more budget-friendly than in nearby cities like Nashville, where food costs are only two percent below the national average. Here, you’ll pay $4.00 for a loaf of bread, almost 1.5 times as much.
Utility costs
You definitely get four, very-defined seasons living in Birmingham. The summer may feel short, but temperatures keep things comfortable. Winters can sometimes drag on, though, bringing a lot of wind even though colder days are minimal.
Dealing with all the seasons can impact your utility bill, with the AC blasting in summer and the heat cranked up in winter. In Birmingham, utility costs are 2.8 percent above the national average. This aligns with other Southern cities. Mobile‘s costs, for example, is 1.3 percent above the national average, and Auburn is five percent above.
What this means for Birmingham locals, when that monthly utility bill arrives, is that it’s a little higher in certain months. On average though, expect to pay $185.52 per month for your energy bill.
Transportation costs
Having a car in Birmingham is probably a good idea, although you might not need it every day. The city has relatively low walk and bike scores meaning some areas may let you navigate on foot, but many won’t.
If you’re driving about and get worried about parking, the Birmingham Parking Authority makes it easy. Managing over 8,000 different spaces, you can pre-select a parking structure, deciding whether to pay for a monthly pass, by the day or by the hour.
To get around without a car, MAX transit provides 19 bus routes running in all directions. The one-way fee is $1.50 for adults, but you can purchase an all-day pass for $3.50 or a monthly pass for $53.00.
Also available, the Magic City Connector serves the downtown area, city hall, the art museum, Linn Park and the University of Alabama, Birmingham. What’s even better, this particular route is only 30 cents per ride.
Overall, transportation costs in Birmingham are reasonable, at 6.5 percent below the national average. That’s a little over a point increase from the previous year.
Healthcare costs
With averages slightly above what people pay across the nation, healthcare costs in Birmingham are 1.1 percent higher than the national average. However, individual costs are ultimately different for everyone based on personal needs and necessary care.
That said, on average, expect to pay $92.95 to see a doctor, $89.50 for that annual eye exam and $131.33 each time you visit the dentist. When it comes to prescription medications, average costs hit around $460. This is all without the benefit of insurance, of course.
Healthcare prices in Birmingham sit very much in the middle when compared with other cities in the state. A doctor’s visit in Huntsville averages out at $125, while the same visit is only $83 in Florence.
To really understand how healthcare prices will impact your cost of living in Birmingham, make sure to review your typical expenses in this area, looking at how often you make a visit to a doctor and what your specific medications tend to cost with your insurance coverage.
Goods and services costs
One of the final components that go into the cost of living in Birmingham are goods and services. These are all the extras in your monthly budget. You want to include them, you like having them as part of your routine, but if money ever got tight, you could go without them.
Overall, goods and services in Birmingham are 0.2 percent below the national average. This is well below nearby cities like Atlanta with an average that’s 6.7 percent above.
Specific items you may have in this category include a night out at the movies ($12.64 per ticket), a haircut ($19.20) or even a weekly six-pack of beer ($9.99).
Tax rates
When it comes to sales tax, as a state, Alabama sets the rate at four percent. Since individual counties and cities can add on to this total, Birmingham’s sales tax rate is 10 percent.
Although this rate may seem high in total, as a state, Alabama has one of the lowest base sales tax rates in the country.
The easiest way to understand how this 10 percent rate impacts you when you shop is to think about shopping for a big-ticket item like a couch. Imagine the bill is $1,000. In this instance, $100 extra is going straight to taxes.
How much do I need to earn to live in Birmingham?
Figuring out how to reconcile the cost of living in Birmingham to how big of a paycheck you need is tricky. What’s best is to start with the biggest expense, rent. Most experts agree that you should set aside 30 percent of your income for rent. Knowing that the average one-bedroom in Birmingham is $1,148, you’d need to have an annual salary of $45,920 for all the numbers to add up.
Since the median annual income in Birmingham is $38,832, there’s a chance you’ll need to include some less expensive neighborhoods in your apartment search, or some a little further away from the city center. However, finding a place to live in Birmingham is still possible. To fully understand your budget limits, use our rent calculator to get exact numbers.
Living in Birmingham
There’s plenty to love about Birmingham — surely enough to want to call it home. From the food to the shopping, the culture to the history, there’s something here for everyone. It’s also nice that it’s a pretty affordable place to live. If the cost of living in Birmingham appeals to you, what’s holding you back? Start that apartment search today.
The Cost of Living Index comes from coli.org.
The rent information included in this summary is based on a calculation of multifamily rental property inventory on Rent. as of September 2022.
Rent prices are for illustrative purposes only. This information does not constitute a pricing guarantee or financial advice related to the rental market.
Moving to a new home is always full of excitement. Whether you’re finally moving out on your own or are relocating for that dream job, there’s a lot of anticipation around getting to your new destination.
Moving is also a time when you realize how much stuff you actually have to pack. Even packing up a small studio instead of an entire home isn’t easy, but you need to stay organized to keep things stress-free.
One way many do this is with a packing list, where they track everything that goes into each moving box. But, how you pack things is only one part of the process. When you pack them also matters for a successful move. You don’t want to start too early or save everything for move-out day. You want important items to remain easily accessible, but don’t want to do the bare minimum in advance.
To keep the packing process smooth, you can get a head start. Here’s what to pack first when moving and how to craft a moving checklist that will keep you headed in the right direction without feeling like you need to wait until the last minute to do the bulk of the work.
Start the packing process
Before the first box gets packed, you have a few decisions to make. First, do you need to find movers? If you’re using a moving company, what will they pack for you on moving day? Those items can go off your to-do list and may mean you’ll spend less time packing.
Second, does anything need to go into storage? Having a storage unit is great if you know you won’t need certain items for a long time. However, it’s better to keep things in your own home if there’s a chance you’ll need whatever is inside within the next six months. Storage items can get packed first (or really at any time) to free up some space.
Third, are you moving a long distance? If you’re going far away, you need to think about what you’ll have to pack for your own trip. You may need more stuff than just a few essential items. You’ll also need to decide if you’re shipping anything. Because of the long distance, it’s wise to send a few boxes ahead. What should go in those, and when do you want them to arrive?
Answering all these questions first can help you separate special groups of items that may fall outside a typical packing timeline, so you may have to make some adjustments and concessions to stay on track as you pack.
Trim the fat
The next thing you want to do in a move is to avoid packing a bunch of stuff you don’t need at all. For this reason, it’s always a good idea to spend a day or two going through all your stuff, separating out items you don’t need and can donate, along with those in a rough condition that can get thrown out.
Old furniture or pieces that won’t work in your new place can get sold, and old clothing can do straight into a donation bin. If you’re an avid reader who loves the feel of actual books, now is a great time to whittle down your collection. Book boxes are heavy, even for a professional moving company. The fewer of these, sometimes, the better.
Move through each room of your home and collect all the unwanted items, then distribute them accordingly. Doing this before you even pack a single box will make the moving process that much faster. You’ll have less to pack and less to move.
Gather packing supplies
The final piece to starting the packing process is to gather the right packing materials. This includes moving boxes, bubble wrap, packing paper and packing tape. Don’t forget about a large marker or two to label each box, as well. You can estimate the amount of moving supplies you’ll need based on your home’s square footage, how many rooms you have or even the amount of stuff you’ve got. A packrat will need many more moving boxes than a minimalist.
To save money on moving boxes, make sure you visit local grocery stores, liquor stores and other shops that end up with a lot of empty boxes. Finding out what day they get deliveries, and going that evening to ask for empties, can yield a nice boon of free boxes.
As you gather supplies, don’t forget to grab an extra box of trash bags. You’ll end up with plenty to throw out as you go.
Establish a packing order
When it’s time to start packing, a strategy of how to tackle your stuff is essential, but you do have options. There are different ways to decide what to pack first when moving. You can go by room, rank items by difficulty or even create a pile of non-essential items to deal with first.
No method is better than the other since they all make it easier to start packing boxes. It’s the plan itself that makes it more efficient to get your home ready to move.
Go room to room
Packing up your home by room gives you easy access to what’s most important to you for the longest period of time. You start with your least-used room and move up to the spaces you use most frequently.
A great place to start with this strategy is in the spare room, if you have one. If not, your starting point could be a closet, your garage space or even the basement. If you’re in an apartment that came with storage space, go there first.
Working in this order, you’ll pack the bathroom, bedroom and kitchen last. These are the most useful rooms in any home, but also can contain a ton of stuff. Make sure you give yourself plenty of time to tackle these spaces (and have plenty of boxes).
Rank space by packing difficulty
Always leaving out essential items, you can also pack by difficulty. This means starting in rooms that will be the most work. It really flips the order from going room-to-room since the most difficult spaces to pack are often the ones we use the most — the bedroom and kitchen. Both rooms can have a lot of stuff, but most of it you could live without for the few weeks you’ll be gearing up to move.
If you start with the bedroom, begin by setting aside the clothes you’ll need or want to wear leading up to moving day and for about a week after. If it can all fit into a suitcase, set that suitcase aside, too. You can pack this all up the day before you move.
Whatever is left, you can start packing at any time. Begin with clothing that’s out of season, though, so you know for sure you won’t need it.
If you start with the kitchen, create a pile of essentials to set aside first. This should include a place setting for every member of the home, one pot, one pan, a pair of tongs, a wooden spoon and a spatula. Yes, you’ll have to wash dishes more frequently, but this lets you get ahead in packing up a very full room.
If it’s easier, move everything you want to pack first into the dining room, so you don’t accidentally pack your essentials.
You can also take this approach with items you have multiple sets of, like towels and linens. Leave out one set for every bed/person and pack up everything else early.
Rank essentials
Another way to figure out what to pack first when moving is to look at all your stuff and group everything into two categories — essentials and non-essentials. Start by packing all the non-essential items, no matter what room they’re in, and then, reprioritize your essential items to create a realistic timeline to pack what’s left. Think about what you need the night before your move versus what you can live without for a few days.
Non-essentials can include:
Fragile items like those that are purely decorative and any fine china or fancy dishes
Picture frames and anything hanging on the walls
Books
Off-season items and holiday decorations
Each room will have plenty of things in it you won’t need immediately so you can really get through packing up a lot of your stuff early. However, as you’re packing, there are certain items that won’t feel like essentials that you’ll actually want to keep out. A big one is cleaning supplies. Since you shouldn’t pack anything dirty, you’ll need cleaning supplies to tidy up whatever you pack first. You may also have to do a final wipe-down of your place before you move out, as well.
Create an “open me first” box
No matter what you pack first, the very last box to pack, using any strategy, is the one you’ll want to open first when you get to your new home. Although you’ve put important documents, a few days’ worth of clothing, toiletries and possibly any valuables into a suitcase you’ll carry with you, this box should contain a few other required items to have on hand as you begin to unpack.
Include:
A set of towels and linens
Toilet paper and paper towels
Hand soap
Trash bags
An extra box cutter
You can also put in other personal items you won’t need immediately but may need soon. Consider creating a little first-aid kit with plenty of band-aids and maybe some extra medications, too. You can even throw in some of your favorite snacks to avoid having to run out to the store right away.
Label this box very clearly and make sure it’s one of the first boxes off of the moving truck. Stick it in the bathroom so you can find it quickly.
Solidify your strategy with a moving checklist
Once you decide on your plan of action, make a list. Breaking down the packing process into actionable items not only keeps you on track, but nothing feels better than crossing something off a to-do list. That’s why a moving checklist is one of the best packing tips out there.
When to start packing boxes
With a strategy in hand and all the bubble wrap you could possibly need, it’s time to set a packing timeline. That’s assuming you’ve already scheduled a moving company or rented a moving truck, and you’ve already donated or thrown out everything you don’t want to take with you. After you complete these items, it’s best to begin packing no later than three weeks out. You can certainly start packing earlier, but remember boxes get in the way fast.
Week three of your three-week countdown schedule should include the items or the spaces you’ve decided are least necessary. Try to pack at least one box per day. If you feel like you’re falling behind, ramp up to two boxes.
Week two means all the middle-ground packing. This is stuff/rooms you thought you might want access to, but now realize you can live without until you get to your new house. Again, aim for at least one box a day. Don’t forget about labeling boxes either and taping them up well.
Week one, the week before you move, everything else must get packed. Moving companies definitely don’t want to arrive on moving day with a bunch of stuff laying around, so make sure you’ve got everything boxed up the night before except what you need right then.
If it helps, you can break your to-do list down to the day rather than the week just to make sure everything gets done without feeling rushed as you near the end.
What will you pack first when moving?
Preparing to move means managing so many details, but what’s most important is getting your stuff from one home to the next. Having a plan is essential, but what you pack first is really up to you. As long as you decide early and collect enough moving supplies, getting to your new house will feel a lot less stressful. So, what’s going into your first moving box?
As with many things in life these days, it all started with an episode of the Peter Attia podcast.
In this edition, our nation’s most Badass Doctor was interviewing a guest I initially dismissed as not overly applicable to my own lifestyle. A young,excessively handsome dude who happened to be a writer with a new book out. But the headline of the episode was just intriguing enough to get me to click.
“The Comfort Crisis”
Wow, what an amazing turn of phrase, and what a concise summary of the core of this whole Mustachianism thing I’ve been trying to express for the past dozen years.
While the news headlines cry constantly about our nationwide personal debt crisis or health crisis or any other number of things that suggest that life is so hard these days, I have always seen the opposite: on average, we Americans seem to have a problem of ridiculous overindulgence and easiness in our lives, and our main problem is not recognizing it, and the damage it does to us.
So of course I had to click, and then listen to the whole two hour episode, and then buy the book, and then spend the past month reading and digesting it in small, meaningful chunks like the modern-day chunk of scripture-like wisdom that it is. And wow, am I glad I did so.
The author is Michael Easter, a former writer for Men’s Health magazine was also once catastrophically addicted to alcohol – and descended from a long family line of ancestors with the same affliction.
He was lucky to catch himself from that fall in time to save his own life, and that story alone makes the book worth reading as someone who has stood by helplessly as loved ones battled with addiction. But I think his history with overindulgence in the hollow comforts of alcohol also gives him an edge on writing about the battle between comfort and hardship on the bigger stage of life in general.
So what is The Comfort Crisis about, and how can it make all of our lives better?
The best part about this book is just what a damned good writer this Easter guy is. Like many of the most fun popular science books*, it follows a split narrative which jumps back and forth to interweave the story of an insanely difficult caribou hunting trip he joined in a remote pocket of Alaska, with the appropriate bits of science, psychology and cultural commentary that help us explain and learn from each chapter of the epic shit he had just endured. This allows us to process and apply the lessons in our own lives.
For example, have you ever wondered why the type of bored, rich suburbanites who populate the board of your local Homeowner Association and whine about unacceptably tall weeds or unauthorized skateboarding on Nextdoor are so insufferable?
Why can’t they do something better with their time?
It turns out that there’s a scientific explanation for these unfortunate people, along with most of our other problems:
The tendency of humans to always scan our environment for problems, regardless of how safe and perfect that environment is.
The book cited a study in which researchers told people to look for danger, in an environment which gradually became safer and safer:
“When they ran out of stuff to find they would start looking for a wider range of stuff, even if this was not conscious or intentional, because their job was to look for threats.”
“With that in mind, Levari recently conducted a series of studies to find out if the human brain searches for problems even when problems become infrequent or don’t exist.“
“As we experience fewer problems, we don’t become more satisfied. We just lower our threshold for what we consider a problem.“
In other words, even when our lives are virtually problem free, instead of appreciating our good fortune we just start making up shit that we can complain about instead.
And then our politicians cock their greasy, finely-tuned ears in our direction and make up policies to appease our mostly-insubstantial concerns. And they invent their own trivial “wedge” issues to get us to all bicker about our different cultures and religions, suddenly caring about things that would not have even been problems if nobody told us they were.
And there’s America’s weakness in a nutshell, and meanwhile our strength comes entirely from the times we choose not to waste our time stooping to this level.
Meanwhile, the opposite effect holds true: people who survive in rougher environments than us end up more resilient and less prone to complaining.
In a series of recent interviews, Ukrainian people living in the war zones of their occupied country were asked “is it safe to live where you live?” and a strangely high percentage still said “Yes” – not all that different from the responses of US residents when asked the same question about their own cities.
This adaptation principle also explains why some first generation immigrants tend to build businesses and wealth while their own offspring in second and third generations are more likely to become complacent and spend it down. As an immigrant myself, I can see why this is: conditions were just slightly more harsh and less comfortable and wealthy where I grew up, so I adapted to those conditions as “normal” which made the United States seem posh and easy by comparison. Which made it easier to spend less money and accumulate more.
Tree Therapy
The trap of pointless worry is just one of the many revelations of The Comfort Crisis. It also gives insightful explanations for why spending time in Nature boosts our mental and physical health, while cubicles and car driving grind us down.
There’s something in our biological wiring that responds instantly and powerfully to everything natural, in ways that you can’t get anywhere else.
Even placing a single plant into a hospital room will measurably improve the recovery of almost all patients from almost all ailments. So can you imagine the power of the medicine you are inhaling if you step into a real, living forest? And what if you spent several hours there, or even several days?
Later, we get lessons on our human adaptation towards the ratio of effort to reward:
It’s proven the harder you work for something, the happier you’ll be about it,”
And our bizarre natural aversion to physical exertion:
A figure that shows just how predisposed humans are to default to comfort:
2 (two).
That’s the percent of people who take the stairs when they also have the option to take an escalator.
Which is remarkable, given the absolutely insane cost this tendency imposes upon us.
Moving your body, even a bit, has enormous benefits – again to almost all people towards reducing the probability and severity of almost all diseases. So can you imagine the benefit of moving your body for several hours per day in a natural environment, and including heavy load bearing and bits of extreme exertion?
These things are not speculative pieces of alternative medicine. They are known, easily and reproducibly tested, and proven to be the most effective things we can possibly do with our time.
So why, the actual fuck, are people still sitting inside, watching Netflix, driving to work, and then driving to the doctor’s office to get deeper and deeper analysis of a neverending series of exotic and mysterious and unsolvable problems with their physical and mental health?
We should at least start with the stuff we know is essential – maximum outdoor time every day, heavy exertion including with weights, minimal time spent sitting and driving, and minimum junk food, sugar, and alcohol. You definitely don’t have to be perfect, but just understand that these are the big levers for physical and mental health.
Only then, once you reach these minimum basic things for human survival, should you expect that more exotic and niche medicines and treatments are the only course of action.
By all means, follow your doctor’s orders and don’t just dump all of your medications down the sink because of this MMM rant. But at the same time, realize that the stuff that is hard and uncomfortable is very likely to be the stuff that improves your life the most.
It’s all the stuff that Mr. Money Mustache has been telling you since 2012, but with more detail and less distraction. This book is a concentrated packet of advice for solid living.
Real Life Inspiration from the Good Book
In a happy coincidence, I happened to be in the middle of some hard stuff** of my own as I worked my way through The Comfort Crisis and I found the perspective quite useful and transformative to apply hot off the press.
Normally somewhat of a homebody, I had embarked on a solo journey for some Carpentourism deep in the mountains of Southwestern Colorado. I had my whole life shrunk down into the new Model Y including food, bed, and the necessary tools and materials to tackle a pretty long laundry list of tasks on two different construction projects (fixing up a mini-resort property in Salida, and starting construction on a small cabin in Durango)
The trip immediately took a turn towards the dramatic as I climbed into the mountains and drove straight into the most torrential rainstorm I have ever seen, then accidentally broke a traffic law in a remote mountain town right in front of both of the local police officers ($115 fine and two points off my license), then five minutes after that had a small pebble hit my brand-new windshield which instantly spread into a crack that spans the whole thing, all before finally limping into Salida to unpack and get started on the work.
“Big deal”, I can already hear you saying, “Retired man experiences two minor incidents while taking a vacation in his luxury car.”
And you’re right, and that is exactly my point.
My life is so stable and comfortable that even these two miniature challenges threw me off balance, and I arrived in a slightly bummed and stressed-out state. But I still knew that in the bigger picture, they are good for me if I accept them as I accept them as the lessons they are rather than choosing to continue to worry about them.
As the trip went on, more things happened, almost as if The Comfort Crisis book were trying to prove a point. I drove three hours deeper into the mountains and up the steep dirt road to arrive at my second friend’s piece of land – a plot of forest in the mountains just outside of Durango.
My work days in that high desert environment in the peak of summer were hot and physically demanding. It was hard to keep my tools, and my food supply in the cooler, and myself protected from the scorching sun (and a strange neverending blizzard of tree pollen) while still getting the job done. There was no indoor plumbing and we had to be very careful with our limited water supply. And then at the end of each day I had to reshuffle everything and set my car back up as a bedroom and crawl in for the night. Alone and far from home.
But instead of feeling depressed as I experienced this constant hardship, the opposite thing was happening: I felt more alive and more badass with each passing day. I got better at being a feral forest man.
One day, my co-builder and I decided to take the afternoon off and head to the wild, remote Lemon Reservoir for some paddleboarding. We didn’t bring our phones or any other conveniences or amenities – just two boards and the minimal clothing required for swimming. And we headed out into a stiff headwind and little whitecap waves, laughing at the freedom of the experience.
It was hard, and slightly scary, as we got further and further from the shore. Progress was slow even with serious paddling, and we didn’t have any particular plan beyond the spirit of “let’s GO!”
But again Michael Easter was there whispering in my ear, saying,
“Is this difficult, Mustache? GOOOOoood! Then you’d better keep going!”
So we did. And we got way out into that lake, to a point where the water was shielded from the wind by the mountains on the other side. And it was awesome.
We cruised over to the shore to explore a particularly scenic meadow, coated with the softest green mossy grass and exuberantly colored wildflowers, and set at an impossibly steep angle. And damn I wished that I could have taken pictures, but in a strange way this forced me to burn that spot more thoroughly into my memories using my own senses instead.
Then we headed back out into the center of the lake, set down the paddles, and just laid down on our boards to let the wind and the waves take us back towards the far end of the lake where we had started. And what a strange, serene feeling it was, floating on just a tube of air over two hundred feet of cold blue water, feeling like a jungle man with no cares and no plans and no material possessions. It could have been scary, but instead it was one of the best and most relaxed moments of my life.
Eventually, this week of forest living and exertion had to come to an end so I could get back to my own town to be a Dad again. But it ended with a final reminder of the principles of the Comfort Crisis – after so many days relatively extreme work and a relatively sparse food supply, I had grown used to a healthy background hunger. Which is yet another thing that we are meant to experience as humans – being satisfied and free from hunger all the time is neither normal nor healthy.
But when my hosts took me out on the town for a final night thank you dinner at the Mexican restaurant, the immense Burrito platter I consumed turned out to be the most delicious meal of my life.
Purposeful Hardship vs. Purposeful Spending
There has been a lot of talk directed at the FIRE community recently about how bad we are at spending our money, and how we all need to loosen up. And there’s a small amount of truth to it, as my local friends Carl and Mindy recently admitted during a grilling on the Ramit Sethi podcast.
But we also need to keep this whole idea of excessive comfort in mind, and the damage it does to the natural human condition.
It’s great to spend money on adventures and improving yourself, being generous to others, and making the world a better place.
But it’s also way too easy to fool yourself into thinking you “want” things that just make your life easier and easier.
So your job is to catch yourself before this happens, and learn to keep things challenging, even as you upgrade the rest of your life experience.
In other words: buy yourself better tools, not softer chairs.
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* Another great book that follows this style is Wired for Love by neruroscientist Stephanie Cacioppo – highly recommended for reading in parallel with a lover, whether new or old.
** not actually hard by reasonable human standards, but it seemed hard by my comfort addicted first world standards
It’s no secret that mental health is an incredibly important part of overall well-being. From anxiety to depression and beyond, our emotions, moods, and behaviors are impacted by how we take care of ourselves. But with all the demands on your time, it can seem daunting and overwhelming to give yourself the attention needed for good mental health—right? Wrong! There are some simple steps you can take each day that will help keep your brain in tip-top shape!
1. Work Out
One user shared, “Working out. Made all the difference.”
Another user replied, “I swear by this. Worst bout of depression in 2021 until I started exercising. Even now when I have a sh*tty day, an hour of exercise makes all the difference. It’s like the sweat washes away all the negative toxins from your body or something.”
One Redditor added, “This. I can’t stress it enough. I would work out 24/7 if I could as it just blocks out all my thoughts and lets me focus on the gains.”
Another commenter said, “That’s it. For me it’s really the feeling of being in control and actively working on feeling better. It also does something to your biochemistry that is extremely beneficial but if you just look at factors that lead to depression, losing control or feeling like other people determine your fate is quite at the top of the list. I feel like I’m turning that around somewhat by working out.”
2. Delete Social Media
One user commented, “Not having any social media accounts.”
Another Redditor asked, “Does Reddit not count?”
The OP answered, “I also deactivated all social media except for Reddit and Twitter (which I will soon deactivate too) I feel these two platforms are different in the sense that they don’t lead the users to constantly compare themselves or expose you to falsehoods of what a ‘perfect’ life others have. This wasn’t personally the reason I deactivated, for me it was a useless time suck that I just wanted to eliminate.”
3. Keep a Gratitude Journal
“Journal of gratitude. Writing in it every night before bed. Keeps me focused on positives,” one user replied.
One user added, “I moved to Japan. I originally visited temples and shrines because I like the environment and collecting the official seal from each. Somewhere along the way it turned into an exercise of gratitude. At each place, I think about how the aspect of the place is there for (Love, knowledge, travel, etc) has been good for me and give thanks. It gets really niche sometimes (Last month I went to a shrine about teeth!) but what that means is that there’s so much I realized I can be thankful for.”
Another user concluded, “I love this idea.”
4. Practice Sobriety
One Redditor added, “Sobriety. More than any other single change. Second biggest? Taking one or two meds that could help with the symptoms I couldn’t resolve myself.”
“Same. Got my 2 month chip today. It’s still new but yeah,” another user replied.
One user commented, “Congrats! keep it up! It just gets better.”
Another user added, “I can’t begin to tell you how much of a difference this has made for me. I am coming up on 9 months sober on July 5th. My psychiaTRIST kept asking me to quit the alcohol but I kept drinking for years. Now that I am feeling the benefits I am just blown away. I’ve already decreased my psych meds once and I feel like I am ready for another decrease.”
5. Get Professional Help
“Seeing someone about it,” one user commented.
Another Redditor replied, “Seeing a private therapist about it and starting ADHD medication the past 6 months has helped so much more than 5 years of various medication and therapy in the public psychiatry did it was truly wild the difference it made being properly medicated with something that actually worked for me (compared to all the antidepressants, antipsychotics and anxiety medications i’ve been on) along with a therapist who genuinely was willing to help me, rather than one who just wanted me out of the psychiatric system as soon as possible.”
One also confirmed, “Counseling really helps.”
6. Take Medications
One user commented, “My medication. Thank you Lithium and Seroquel for controlling my type two bipolar which enables me to participate in my life in a meaningful way. It has also made it possible for me to deal with unresolved issues and now I only need the meds listed above. Been almost twenty years now and not a hint of mania or depression.”
Another user replied, “How is your memory with seroquel? I’ve only been on a very low dose for 3 weeks but my memory is horrible all of a sudden. I’m also sleeping a lot.”
Another user shared, “It can take up to six weeks for it to reach therapeutic levels. The sleepiness will abate. I don’t recall specific memory issues when I started but I was also dealing with the memory issues of the depression I was slowly coming out of. Talk to your pharmacist about the side effects. They will know what you should be concerned about and what will pass.
“Getting the right meds at the right dose requires patience but it is so worth it. Hang in there. Being able to meaningfully participate in your own life once you get this sorted is a blessing I can’t describe. I am grateful every day for my meds.”
7. Make New Friends
One Redditor shared, “Leave all my old friends behind and look for new ones to forget my old struggles. I know it’s bad but I don’t care. I love my two only friends and they are enough for me.”
Another user affirmed, “It’s not bad at all; sometimes you must leave people in the past.”
8. Positive Existentialism
One user stated, “Optimistic nihilism. One day I realized I’m not actually going to be here forever, and the things I do now aren’t going to matter in the long run. Did something embarrassing? So what, they’ll forget about it eventually. Made a mistake at work? Dude the bosses make way more money anyway, why should I care if I already gave it my all? I’ve learned that I can be a good person and still not give a shit, that the only opinion that matters is mine, and if someone wants to stomp all over that I don’t need them in my life. Edit: it’s officially called absurdism/existentialism! I recommend looking it up.”
One user responded, “I call this ‘zooming out’. I do it periodically. I think it’s healthy to recognize that each of us is 1 in 8 billion living people, probably 100 billion ever. That only spans a few thousand years. The world has been around billions of years before us, and will last billions of years after we’re gone. Our tiny planet is one of billions (trillions?) of planets that have existed or will exist. We are so small.”
Another user added, “Yes! So many people are miserable because they want to look good for everyone else, but what’s the point when in a year, a month, even a week from now no one will remember what you said or did. Most people are too absorbed in their own insecurities to focus on yours, and the ones that make it a point to focus on yours aren’t worth it. In the end, you’ll be gone and no one will remember you, even celebrities will be distant memories one day.”
9. Delete Toxic Messages
“Deleting my ex-wife’s emails without reading them,” one user commented.
Another user replied, “Boss move. Well done!”
10. Leave Unhealthy Relationships
One commenter posted, “Being single again. Two weeks after being dumped, I was still feeling less emotional distress than what I did on a regular basis while in that relationship.”
11. Plant a Flower
“Moving into a house with a garden after years in a flat, sitting out in nature is so relaxing, being able to enjoy the fruits of my labour by seeing the flowers and plants grow that I planted is so rewarding, especially when you see bees enjoying the flowers. I have honestly gone from around a 2-5 in mood up to a 9-10, even on the most difficult days, the garden is my sanctuary, I didn’t think it could make such a difference, but it does,” one Redditor added.
Another user added, “That’s happy! Nature makes such a huge difference in well being. Being outside pretty much immediately improves/regulates my mood.”
12. Go Outside Near Water
Another user shared, “Going to the beach.”
One added specifically, “Newport Beach, Crystal Cove Beach. . . California.”
“Little Corona,” another commenter responded.
One user suggested, “Rio Del Mar, Capitola, Santa Cruz CA.”
13. Meditate
“Meditation,” one user posted.
Another Redditor confirmed, “Yes meditation has done wonders. For me guided meditation. There are tons of free ones on YouTube. It can take a few times but it does help big time.”
One commenter asked, “Please suggest a good yt video if you can. If you don’t know of a good video, can you please take the pain of writing it? I will be so grateful…”
Another user said, “Look into Dr Joe Dispenza.”
14. Get a Dog
One user shared, “Getting a dog.”
Another user replied, “Ooff, so much agreement here. A dog gives you routine, which is key when your life is disrupted by big events.”
“Honestly, I’ve noticed my anxiety always gets a lot worse when I have no routine. Even little things like going to the gym/walking everyday, getting up at a certain time, etc helps me,” one commenter added.
Another Redditor responded, “I was going to write the same. My furry little friend has made a huge difference.”
15. Don’t Watch the News
One user suggested, “I stopped watching the news about 7 years ago. I cannot describe how blissful ignorance is.”
Another replied, “Fr tho.”
16. CBD
One user posted, “Unironically, smoking a bunch of weed. That’s not saying it’s a healthy way to go about it, but when I’m baked, I want to be as comfortable as possible. To get that, I actually had to clean my living space and do basic hygiene. Over time, taking care of those things was a bit easier because I wasn’t letting mountains of trash pile up. Cleaner space and slightly healthier living gave me a morale boost I wasn’t expecting and it pushed me to be more diligent in cleaning myself and my area. I’m still not in a great place mentally, but I’m leagues ahead of where I was a year ago.”
“Exact opposite for me. Weed takes away any energy I have to actually make my life better. It systematically ends up destroying any good intentions I have,” replied by one user.
17. Get a Better Job
“A better paying job with more interesting work, better coworkers, less hours and a boss who believes in making sure people have what they need to function instead of putting pressure on them. Give me far more time to be at home to take care of things there (and to chill, mind you) plus a bigger spending range and so much more happiness in the job itself,” one Redditor shared.
18. Quit a Toxic Job
One online user shared, “Quitting my job!! I’ve been at a new job for about three months now and have really been doing so much better. I had previously worked in an animal control facility for about 3.5 years. I had been promoted several times, was the head of my department and several unrelated projects and was completely overwhelmed. Asking for help because I didn’t have time to do everything I needed to was met with unhelpful answers about figuring out how to balance everything. Not having any ideas of how to balance it, I was literally told, ‘It’ll be easier when you figure out how to balance everything.’ I took a $4 pay cut to go to a new job. I’m the newest and dumbest person in an art department, have no customer interaction, and don’t see animal death daily. This is the best pay cut I’ve ever taken. I’m only now starting to notice how much the compassion fatigue at animal control was affecting me.”
19. Set Boundaries With Family
“Pulling away from family. I love them, truly, but no one needs constant reminders of mistakes in their teens when you’re almost 30. Not to mention I have the kind of family if I return such a favour that I am told I am a child for bringing up the past. I used to call my brother and sister almost daily and I stopped last month. Best decision I have made in a long time,” one user commented.
Do you have more healthy ways of keeping up your mental health aside from the list above? Share it in the comment section!
Source: Reddit.
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