Save more, spend smarter, and make your money go further
[embedded content]
Agreeing on a single set of goals as a couple can be challenging. While it’s possible that you’ve managed to settle down with someone that happens to be your exact money twin, what’s more likely is that you and your partner will have different money philosophies. As you work towards building your life together, you’ll have to learn how to mesh those differing viewpoints so that you can create joint financial and life goals. These tips will help you do just that.
Commit to Complete Financial Honesty
If you want to create financial goals that work for you both as a couple, you are going to have to be completely honest with each other about money. That means talking about your current financial situation, like how much money you make and how much debt you have. Even if you plan to manage your finances separately, your financial state will have an effect on each other’s lives. It’s better to be honest from the beginning than to have to deal with unexpected surprises later on.
It also means being honest about lifestyle goals and preferences like whether you want to have kids, where you want to live, and how often you like to go on vacation. Your partner should know what a good life looks like to you and vice versa. That way you start to have an idea of what you both want and why you want it.
If you aren’t used to having these kinds of raw conversations about money, it might be uncomfortable at first. But the more #RealMoneyTalk convos you have with your partner, the easier it will get.
Be Prepared to Compromise
If you have a partner, chances are you are already used to doing this, like whose parents’ house to visit for Thanksgiving each year. Deciding on joint financial goals as a couple works the same way. As much as we all wish that we could fit in all of our financial goals in one shot and never have to choose, the reality is that we have to prioritize. There will always be limits to what we can feasibly accomplish financially especially in the short term.
You and your partner will likely have some differing ideas of how you want to spend your money or how quickly you want to accomplish your goals. Even something as simple as where you want to live can be a source of disagreement that you will have to work through. The key here is to be open to modifying your original expectations so that you can fit in the things that matter the most to both of you.
Outline Your Life Goals as Individuals and as a Couple
Taking the time to figure out what you both want as a couple and what you want as individuals helps give both of you perspective. Before you get together to agree on your joint financial goals, you should each take some time separately to write down your goals beforehand. Each of you should make a list of your own personal goals and the goals that you are hoping to accomplish as a couple. The more inclusive the list is, the better. You can always cull the list later.
Using your two lists as a starting point, get together and start talking through your goals. Do you have any goals in common? Are there goals on there that surprised you? This exercise is a great way to learn some new things about your partner that you might not have known about.
Remember that while you’re only working on financial goals, you’ll want to consider things that may not seem like a financial goal. Many of the things that we think of as bucket list items or life goals, like climbing Kilimanjaro or cruising in retirement, are actually financial goals in disguise. It will cost money to actually make them happen. So be sure to include the not so obvious financial goals in your discussion.
If you find that you and your partner are worlds apart, don’t fret. Figuring out where you both stand is just the beginning. You can always choose to compromise later. Financial goals change over time and the key is to keep them growing and changing together.
Decide Which Goals Are Most Important to You
Once you have a comprehensive list of goals that you’re both working from, it’s time to start prioritizing. That means you are going to each have to rank which goals matter the most to you and which matter the least. You’ll also want to consider the urgency of the goals and how long it will take to accomplish them.
Prioritizing your goals make it easier to decide which ones to focus on first. It also makes compromising a lot easier because you can choose what is most important to you and what you are willing to give up in order to have it.
Starting from a place of wanting to fit in as many of each other’s top priorities as possible will make it that much easier to decide on your joint financial goals. And if you aren’t able to fit in some of your high priority goals right at the beginning, it gives you both something to work towards as a couple.
Use Real Numbers to Define Your Goals Where Possible
As you work through deciding which financial goals you want to focus on, take some time to estimate exactly how much those goals are going to cost. It’s really easy to get carried away with goals and underestimate how much money or time it will take the accomplish them.
Taking the time to attach a real number to your financial goals makes for more realistic goals.
Use those real numbers in your actual budget to see how your financial goals will affect your day to day lives. A goal that seemed reasonable in theory could turn out to be unbearable in practice because of how it affects the rest of your life. If you set both of your expectations in advance, it will make it a lot easier to stick with your financial goals.
Have Regular Check-Ins to Make Sure You Are On Track
Deciding which goals you want to prioritize as a couple and fitting them into your budget is just the beginning. As time goes on, you might want to add new goals in or you might find that one or both of you don’t actually want the things that you thought you wanted when you initially set your financial goals. That’s okay. People change and goals change too.
Having regular check-ins with each other about your goals will help you adjust your goals as you go so that they continue to reflect your financial goals as a couple.
Save more, spend smarter, and make your money go further
Previous Post
5 Days to a (Successful) Financial Detox
Next Post
How to Have the Vacation #RealMoneyTalk with Your Friends
By Peter AndersonLeave a Comment – The content of this website often contains affiliate links and I may be compensated if you buy through those links (at no cost to you!). Learn more about how we make money. Last edited November 18, 2021.
Earlier this year I happened upon a new online brokerage called Betterment.com that was advertised as an easier way to invest for people who are either too busy to handle their own investments, too intimidated by other brokerages being too complicated, or who just wanted an easy hands off way to invest their money with no fuss.
How does Betterment work?
It marries the simplicity of an high yield savings account with what on average are the higher long term returns of investing in stocks and bonds. It is a simple account where you can add or withdraw funds to or from your linked bank account, and then tell Betterment your risk tolerance, and you’re done. Once you set your allocations Betterment will then invest money for you on a scheduled basis, re-allocating your funds when your allocations get out of whack.
It’s a simple investment account that will help people invest for the long term without a lot of hassle.
I Signed Up For Betterment
I really like the theory behind Betterment, and liked what they had to offer, and decided to jump in and give Betterment a try. In April I signed up for the site and began depositing money every month.
While my returns have been negative so far, that’s to be expected with the stock market showing a downward trend since April when I signed up.
When you are invested mainly in index funds, your returns will go down in the short term when the market is down. In the long term you should be ok.
Betterment Gets A New Look
So far I’ve been pretty happy with what Betterment has to offer, but this past month Betterment decided to make some changes to their look and feel and make things even better than before.
For now the changes are mainly just changes to the design with some subtle color changes, and a change to the site layout. The core functionality of the site has remained essentially the same.
So what you’ll get is a cleaner design for the site. While I think the changes look nice, they’re also being done in preparation for some other bigger changes that the Betterment team has coming. On the company’s blog, they mention that they’re getting the site ready for a variety of new features and tools that will be coming down the pipe in the coming weeks. Apparently they wouldn’t all work very well with the old design.
The new look is just the start of a plethora of new features we’ll soon be rolling out. In the coming weeks, we’ll be launching more tools to help you reach your goals. It’s all part of our dedication to providing a smarter, simpler, better way for busy people to invest.
So Betterment is continuously trying to get better, updating the design, adding new tools and features, and making Betterment a one stop shop.
What Investments Do You Get With Betterment?
So when you sign up with Betterment what kind of investments do you have available, and how does the investment process work? After you signup (get a $25 signup bonus here), There are only a couple of steps you’ll need to take. You’ll tell the site:
How much to invest.
How much of your investment you want in equities (Stock Market).
How much you want in Treasury bonds (TIPs).
After you set up your allocations Betterment will buy stocks in a variety of Index Fund ETFs so that you are diversified. Here is what you get on the stocks side:
10% SPDR Dow Jones Industrial Average ETF (DIA)
20% iShares S&P 500 Value Index ETF (IVE)
20% iShares S&P 1000 Value Index ETF (IWD)
15% iShares Russell 2000 Value Index ETF (IWN)
15% iShares Russell Midcap Value Index ETF (IWS)
20% Vanguard Total Stock Market ETF (VTI)
For Treasury bonds, you get
50% iShares Barclays 1-3 Year Treasury Bond Fund (SHY)
50% iShares Barclays TIPS Bond Fund (TIP).
So once you set your allocations you’ll get a nice diversified set of stocks and bonds to add to your portfolio.
Betterment Iphone App
With a lot of companies the Iphone app won’t be able to do as much as you’d like, it feels like an underpowered version of the main site. With Betterment, since their site is so simple to begin with – you can do just about everything you can on their site – on the app as well.
You can use a simple slider to change your asset allocation, add or withdraw funds, check your balances and account activity. It’s simple and effective.
Conclusion
I’ve been using Betterment.com for the past few months and it is what it says it is.
A simple way to invest and save for retirement. It’ll take your invested money, put it in index funds, and reallocate when necessary. You don’t have a lot of complicated things to worry about.
The new site changes should give the site an fresher look, and according to Betterment, prepare the site for some future enhancements and feature upgrades. I look forward to them.
Have you signed up for Betterment? Are there things holding you back? If you have signed up, how do you like it so far? Do you like the design changes?
The U.S. Federal Reserve isn’t expected to announce another interest rate hike in the wake of the banking crisis, especially as the inflation the Fed has been fighting continues to slow. The change in policy could give mortgage interest rates some room to come down. (Mortgage rates are separate from the Fed’s short-term rates, but they have been following a similar upward trajectory.)
Inflation was still up 4.9% year over year in April but dipped slightly from the previous month, when it was 5% year over year, according to the government’s consumer price index released on Wednesday. Decelerating inflation takes some of the pressure off of the Fed to keep raising rates. The Fed is also likely to avoid adding further strain on the banking industry, after several recent, high-profile bank failures.
“It will prevent mortgage rates from climbing too much higher,” says Realtor.com® Chief Economist Danielle Hale of the Fed ending its rate increases. “I expect them to gradually come down.”
She anticipates mortgage rates will stabilize over the short term and then begin dropping by the late summer and early fall. Rates could eventually return to the 5% and high 4% range. But those longing for the days of rock-bottom rates, such as when they fell below 3% during the COVID-19 pandemic, shouldn’t get their hopes up.
Mortgage rates averaged 6.68% for 30-year fixed-rate loans on Tuesday afternoon, according to Mortgage News Daily.
“We should expect to see mortgage rates decline as we move toward year end,” says David Stevens, CEO of Mountain Lake Consulting. The Moneta, VA-based consultancy focuses on the mortgage and real estate industries. “Rates will be closer to 5.5% by the end of this year.”
The Catch-22 of the mortgage market is that for mortgage rates to really drop, the economy will have to take a hit. The Fed has been aiming for a “soft landing” in which it is able to bring down inflation without plunging the country into a recession. It’s a tricky landing for the Fed. If anything goes wrong or the bank failures continue, the Fed might have to cut its rates to stimulate the economy. That will likely lead mortgage rates to fall.
Once rates drop below 6%, homeowners are expected to begin listing their homes for sale again, easing the housing shortage. Many haven’t wanted to trade up or down into new homes as doing so would require securing new mortgages with higher rates. Those homes will likely be snapped up quickly by eager buyers.
In the meantime, stable and beginning-to-fall mortgage rates are good for the housing market.
“It’s going to give buyers and sellers a chance to adapt to where mortgage rates are and factor it into their decision-making,” says Hale.
This post may contain affiliate links, which helps us to continue providing relevant content and we receive a small commission at no cost to you. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Please read the full disclosure here.
You are here because you want to vent, so you searched “I hate my job.”
We all have that one job we hate. We might work at a place where the boss is mean, the workloads are too heavy, or maybe there’s been an issue with company culture for some time now and no amount of persuasion has worked to fix it.
If you’re reading this article right now, then you likely know exactly what I’m talking about; something just doesn’t feel as if it’s clicking anymore. The hours and days drag on trying to find your spark again and you’re just not getting anywhere.
You hate your job.
This is why it’s important to ask yourself if a career change might be the answer, or at least offer some insight into whether or not your job is worth keeping.
You hate answering the question, “what do you do for a living?”
While this may seem like an easy or daunting task, there are a few things that should help you figure out if the time has come for a change.
Are you at that moment that marked the end of any hope you may have to continue to work the job you have?
Is it normal to absolutely hate your job?
No, it’s not normal to absolutely hate your job.
Most people experience some level of dissatisfaction or unhappiness at some point in their careers.
What do you do when you hate your job but can’t quit?
You need to find a way to make this job work for you.
While it may be difficult to focus on anything other than how much you dislike your job, there are ways to make the job work for you and improve your situation.
Most importantly, you may need to adjust your expectations or find a way to deal with the negative aspects of the job.
If this is not possible or if it is not feasible, then it might be best to look for another job or transfer to a new boss.
How do you deal if you hate your job?
If you hate your job, it can be difficult to deal with. You may feel like you can’t escape or that your situation is hopeless.
However, there are things that you can do to cope and make the best of the situation:
You may find it helpful to talk to friends or family about what’s going on and see if they have any advice.
You can also try looking for other jobs or exploring options for transferring or quitting your job.
If all else fails, consider seeking professional help.
There are many ways to cope when you hate your job, and each person will react differently depending on their individual circumstances and personalities. However, most people find some way to get through tough times by proactively taking steps to find joy in their job.
How long should I stay in a job I hate?
Well, the answer depends on what your situation is and your personal options.
Staying in a job you hate pays the bills, but probably doesn’t help in the work-happiness balance.
You have probably run through all of the good excuses to miss work.
Below, you will find tips on how to cope, but more importantly, steps to change your situation for the better.
I Hate My Job – How You are Feeling in That Place
This is a difficult situation to be in.
You feel like you should love your career! You spent money on a college education, maybe this job is a transition for you, or possibly you took the job everyone expected from you.
Regardless of how you got here, you need to look for the right role and work environment for you going forward. Life stratification means something, right?
1. You’re Suffering from Workplace Burnout & It is a Problem
Workplace burnout is a condition in which an individual has reached the end of their rope. They’re no longer able to take the stress and demands of their job and are overwhelmed.
How You Feel: Workplace burnout can happen to anyone, but it’s particularly common among employees who are stressed out by demanding deadlines or unrealistic expectations from their boss. When you reach this point where you are no longer able to cope with the stress at work, you may experience symptoms such as mood swings, fatigue, and decreased productivity.
What to Do: If you feel like you’re struggling to keep up with your job and you’re starting to suffer from workplace burnout, there are some steps that you can take to get back on track. First, talk to your boss about what’s going on – explain that you feel overwhelmed by the demands of your position and ask for help adjusting your workload. If that doesn’t work, consider looking for another job – even if it means taking a pay cut in the short term.
Workplace burnout is a condition that can be debilitating, so don’t wait until it’s too late before trying anything else!
2. Your Work Is Overlooked and Undervalued
When people feel like their work is overlooked or undervalued, it can lead to a number of negative emotions. These emotions can include frustration, anger, and sadness. You want to hear “I appreciate you or get a letter.”
How You Feel: You feel like your work isn’t given the credit it deserves. This might be because the job is boring or mundane, or because you feel the work isn’t appreciated by others in the workplace. When this happens, it’s easy for these feelings to simmer down and fester.
What to Do: If you’re feeling frustrated at your job and don’t know what to do about it, consider talking to your boss. Discussing your concerns might help them see how important your work is and spark some ideas for how you could improve it. Additionally, contacting professional organizations that focus on career development can give you advice on where to go from here.
3. You’ve Been Stagnant for Some Time & Not Given Growth Opportunities
When you’ve been stagnant, you’re not moving forward or improving in any way – especially if you haven’t been offered a promotion. This could mean you’re stuck in a job you don’t like, haven’t taken any steps to improve your skills, or just aren’t making any real progress climbing the corporate ladder.
How You Feel: Stagnation can be frustrating and discouraging especially if you have been a loyal employee for a while. You are tired of being looked over for that promotion by a work colleague. You are wondering if you should dust off that resume and start drafting cover letters for a new job.
What to Do: There are many proactive things to do on your own when you feel stuck.
Take stock of where you are right now. Sit down and make a list of all the accomplishments and successes that are linked to your current job. What does this say about how satisfied you are with your position?
Evaluate what kind of skills you need to advance in your career. Do some research online or attend relevant training courses offered by your company or industry association.
Think about what kinds of changes would make the biggest impact on both you and your company/organization that employs you. Are there new technologies available that could help streamline operations? Could new policies be put into place that would benefit the organization as a whole?
Be proactive. Start reaching out to other professionals within your field and see if there’s anything you can learn from them. Networking is one of the best ways to grow your career, and it won’t take much effort on your part.
Be patient. Things may not change overnight, but over time they will improve. Don’t get discouraged; stay positive and continue working hard towards your goals.
4. Your Workplace Is Toxic or Hostile
A workplace is considered toxic or hostile when employees feel uncomfortable, unsupported, or threatened. This can lead to decreased productivity and morale, which in turn can result in negative impacts on the business.
In fact, the toxic culture is driving the Great Resignation we are seeing right now (source).
How You Feel: When you don’t feel like you can open up about your concerns, it creates an environment of mistrust, tension, and poor communication between all of the employees and your managers. This type of environment is difficult to overcome, and will eventually lead to burnout.
What to Do: The best way to avoid a toxic workplace is by creating a culture of transparency and trust. By airing out any problems early on, you give yourself the opportunity to work together harmoniously towards common goals instead of against each other.
5. Be Careful About What You Say and to Whom
Be careful what you say to whomever you talk to online and in-person, as your words could potentially be taken out of context and used against you.
How You Feel: It can be tempting to share your frustrations with your job with friends or family. But before you do, make sure that they’re comfortable talking about work too. If they’re not comfortable discussing their jobs openly, it may not be the best idea to bring up yours either. And if someone does overhear you speaking negatively about your job, don’t worry – they probably won’t repeat what you said!
What to Do: When you talk to people, be careful about what you say and to whom. It’s important not to offend anyone, especially not your boss. You never know who might be listening in on your conversation – or recording it!
6. Take a break
Sometimes it’s tough to keep going when you’re feeling down about your job. But sometimes it’s important to take a break and focus on other things in life.
How You Feel: You feel like you are grinding and going in a million different directions. As soon as you feel like you get ahead, something knocks you down and you feel like you need to start over.
What to Do: Taking a break can be helpful in many ways. It can help you clear your head, refocus on your goals and come back with a new perspective.
Sometimes all we need is some time away from our job to get back on track.
If taking time off isn’t an option or you don’t think it will help, there are other things you can do to improve your situation once you feel a little more refreshed. Thus, why adult coloring books have become so popular.
7. Miserable in the Work Building
You want to feel happier and more productive at work, but that may happen by taking steps at home and with your family.
How You Feel: When you’re feeling miserable at work, it’s harder to focus on your job and perform at your best. You are counting down the seconds until your shift is over.
What to Do: Taking steps to improve your well-being outside of work can help you feel happier and more productive. This includes things like exercising, eating a healthy diet, getting enough sleep, etc. By improving one aspect of your life, you’ll be better equipped to handle stress in the workplace and achieve success.
8. Your Projects are Underappreciated
Many people believe that their work is just a necessary evil, something that they have to do in order to get by. But the truth is, your work is incredibly important – it’s what allows us to live our lives. Without a job, we would be unable to pay our bills or afford food.
How You Feel: According to a recent study, almost three-fourths of employees feel their job isn’t very important and receives little recognition from their employers. This is difficult when you pour your heart and soul into an assigned project at work.
What to Do: If you’re unhappy with your current situation and don’t think your work is receiving the recognition it deserves, there are probably some things you can do about it. Start by talking to your boss about what you’d like to see change – maybe there’s room for improvement in how your department is managed or prioritized. And finally, make sure you’re giving your best effort every day – if you’re putting in the extra effort but still aren’t satisfied with your career path, it might be time for a change.
9. Your Talents are Wasted and the Effects are Feeling Undervalued
When you feel like your skills and talents are not being appreciated or utilized to their fullest potential, this can lead to feelings of depression, stress, and burnout. Oftentimes, these negative emotions are compounded when we don’t have a clear idea of what we want in life.
How You Feel: Chronic undervaluedness can have serious consequences on our mental health. It can lead to feelings of low self-esteem and insecurity, which in turn can lead to problems such as depression and anxiety. Furthermore, undervalued employees are less likely to pursue career opportunities that may be better suited for them. This leaves businesses struggling to find qualified candidates and increases the chances that they’ll need to recruit externally in the future.
What to Do: The good news is that it’s possible to overcome feeling undervalued by focusing on celebrating yourself. In fact, I recently finished this book and realized I contribute to putting myself down more than others around me. Start by taking awareness of negative thoughts and make a swift change to change them to the positive.
10. There Has Been an Uncomfortable Change in Leadership
This tends to lead to the most job-hopping because of an uncomfortable change in leadership, which can lead to a number of different emotions.
How You Feel: More likely, you feel one of the most common reactions of sadness, confusion, and anger. When a leader is replaced or leaves a position of power, it can be confusing for the people who work under them. This can lead to feelings of sadness and loss, as well as confusion about what’s going on. You may also become angry because they feel like your position is threatened.
What to Do: It’s important for leaders to communicate with their employees about the changes so that everyone understands what’s happening and feels comfortable using the new leadership structure. This will help reduce the amount of confusion and chaos at work, which will ultimately improve morale. If this doesn’t happen, then try to sit down with your new and old boss for a discussion.
11. Your Values No Longer Align
This can happen when new management comes into the work environment or a personal shift in life notification for you. When your values no longer align with those of the job, it can be difficult to stay motivated.
How You Feel: When you first accepted the job offer, everything felt right. You were excited about the challenge and the new opportunities that this new position would bring. However, after a few months, you start to notice some discrepancies between your values and what is required of you in your current role.
For example, you may not feel comfortable using profanity at work or participating in unethical behavior. In fact, you may even feel morally opposed to these behaviors.
What to Do: If your values are no longer aligned with those of the job, it can be hard to stay at the job because you no longer see any value in what you’re doing. This can lead to feelings of frustration and dissatisfaction.
Additionally, consider job-hopping and start scheduling interviews for another job that better aligns with who you are as a person and what matters most to you. When you find a job that you love and feel passionate about, it will be much easier to stay motivated and happy in your work environment.
12. Your Confidence Is Dwindling
It is deflating when work is off sync and nothing seems to be working out how your hopes. You know their adjustments to be made, but you aren’t sure where to start
How You Feel: When you’re feeling down about your job, it can be hard to believe that anything could make things better. But the truth is, there are plenty of ways to get through a tough time.
What to Do: Here are four ways to boost your confidence and start thinking positively again:
Talk to someone you trust. Talking out your problems with someone who will listen without judgment can help you feel more relieved and less stressed.
Take some time for yourself. Whether that means taking a walk outside or indulging in a favorite hobby, spending time alone can help relax your mind and body and clear your head.
Set goals for yourself and work towards them one step at a time. When you have something concrete to aim for, it becomes much easier to stay motivated during challenging times.
Believe in yourself! Even if the world seems like it’s against you right now, remember that everything will eventually work out as long as you keep fighting for what’s important to you.”
13. I Really Hate My Job & Think It Is Time for a Job Search
There are a few different ways to quit your job and make the switch to a new career. You can search for job openings online, contact your local employment agency, or speak with an advisor at a career center.
How You Feel: Quitting your job is not always easy, but it’s worth it if you’re unhappy with the situation. There are many benefits to quitting your job, including increased income (yes, a raise!) and more time for yourself.
What to Do: Searching online is the fastest way to find jobs that match your skills and interests, but be sure to read all of the applicable links before applying. If you’re looking for advice on how to quit your job without ruining relationships or getting fired, speak with an advisor at a career center. They can provide guidance on how best to proceed and minimize potential damage.
15. When you Hate Workplace – Don’t Burn Bridges
Burning bridges can have serious consequences, both for yourself and your career. By staying neutral in confrontations, you may be able to salvage your reputation and future relationships.
How You Feel: When disagreements arise at work, it’s important not to take the bait and lash out. Doing so could lead to long-term damage that could complicate your job situation and future career prospects.
What to Do: Instead, try to remain calm and diplomatic – this will show that you have good judgment and aren’t easily provoked. If you need to speak up, do it constructively and with the goal of resolving the issue rather than hurting someone’s feelings or damaging their relationship.
16. Your interests & skillsets have changed
If you’ve been working at your job for a while and it’s not fulfilling you anymore, it might be time to consider a change. Maybe you have been learning a new skill set that you find more interesting.
How You Feel: Your interests may have changed since you first started working, or you may have outgrown your current position. It’s important to remember that there are plenty of other opportunities out there – even if they don’t involve a nine-to-five schedule.
What to Do: When we’re unhappy with our work, it can be tough to discuss the situation with our boss or coworkers. But if we’re not happy, they’ll eventually notice and it’ll create an uncomfortable work environment. Change can be difficult at first, but it can lead to greater satisfaction in the long run.
17. Know It’s Not Just You
There’s a lot of talk about the recession and how it’s affecting everyone, but what about the people who are just trying to survive? This is a common struggle people are facing at work.
How You Feel: Work can be challenging, especially during tough economic times. Many people are feeling stressed out and depressed at their jobs, and there doesn’t seem to be an end in sight.
What to Do: However, there are ways to cope with the stress and difficulties of work. You need to learn strategies to balance the work-life situation. Talking to friends or a trusted professional will help you get back on track.
I hate my Career – Ways to Cope
Everyone hates their jobs sometimes.
This is especially true when you are stuck in a career that doesn’t serve your values and goals, or one with very high-stress levels. If this sounds like the case for you, then it is time to evaluate your next move.
However, many people are reluctant to make such changes because of the risk involved and uncertainty about what comes next.
It is important to be aware of what is driving your internal hatred about your job, your boss, or your situation.
1. Assess Your Situation & the Industry
If you’re feeling depressed or lost in your career, it’s important to take some time to assess where you are and where you want to be. This is a process of looking at your current situation and making a plan for how to get there.
Are you unhappy with your current job because it is not fulfilling, or are you just bored?
Perhaps the work environment is too stressful for you to handle?
Do you believe you should be making more money?
The first step in coping with a negative career outlook is taking the time to reflect on where you are right now. You can use this assessment to figure out what needs to change in order to improve your situation. Once you have a good idea of what needs improvement, it’s easier to make the changes that will get you closer to your goals.
Also, look at the overall industry trends to you see industry-wide trends affecting job quality and life satisfaction. More often than not, it might be others in your field feeling the same.
2. Have the Tough Conversations
Tough conversations can be difficult, but they’re essential if you want to improve yourself and your career. Every time you have a tough conversation with yourself or someone else in your work life, you’ll learn something new and make progress.
There are three types of tough conversations you need to have:
The “What If” Conversation – This is the conversation where you ask yourself what would happen if X happened. This helps you prepare for possible challenges and makes sure that everything is in order before taking action.
The “Doing Better” Conversation – This is the conversation where you commit to doing better next time, regardless of the results so far.
The “I’m Sorry” Conversation – This is the conversation where you apologize for how things turned out and vow to do better next time.
Tough conversations are not easy, but they are essential if you want to achieve your career goals. Be brave enough to have them and take advantage of all that they can offer!
3. Switch Your Perspective
If you’re feeling down about your career, take a step back and think about how you can see it from a different perspective.
When we’re upset or unhappy with something in our life, it’s easy to focus on the negative aspects. However, by switching our perspective, we can start to see the situation in a new light.
For example, if you hate your job but don’t want to change careers, try thinking about how you could see it as an opportunity for growth. Instead of focusing on what you don’t like about your job, consider all the ways you’ve learned and grown since starting work there.
We all have moments when things don’t go our way – by changing our perspective, we can start to feel better even when things are tough. In fact, this is why we stress mindset is everything.
4. Vent About It
When people feel frustrated or overwhelmed with their job, they may want to share their feelings with others. This behavior is often referred to as “venting.”
Venting can be helpful in relieving stress and tension. It can also help people process their thoughts and emotions, which can lead to positive changes in their lives.
Many people use social media to vent about their career frustrations. This is especially common among millennials, who are more likely than any other generation to use social media platforms for self-expression. One of the benefits of using social media for venting is that it allows you to connect with like-minded individuals who understand your situation. This network of support can be incredibly helpful in overcoming challenges in your career path.
5. Get Your Finances in Order
When you’re feeling down about your career, it can be tempting to think that you have no other choice but to continue to work at a job you hate. However, by getting your finances in order you can start to feel more optimistic about your future.
Especially for those in the, I don’t want to work anymore boat, this is the time to start saving money to invest for your future self.
Setting money aside will provide a cushion if you choose to leave your job unexpectedly or breathing room when changing jobs.
This is something we personally did when my husband wanted to change jobs due to being overlooked for promotion after promotion.
6. Do Your Best Work
Doing your best work means putting your all into whatever you’re doing. It means giving it your all, no matter what the task or situation. This may be hard, but it is essential!
When you do your best work, you put in the effort and energy that’s necessary to be successful.
You don’t half-ass things because you’re worried about how people will think of you. You go all out and give it 110%, no matter what. And that goes for everything in life – from your career to relationships to anything else that matters to you.
There are a lot of times when we don’t feel like doing our best work because we’re doubtful or scared. But if we keep pushing through those tough times, eventually we’ll reach a point where doing our best work becomes second nature. And then success will follow naturally as a result!
So don’t wait – start doing your best work today and see the amazing results for yourself!
7. Brainstorm Your Dream Job
Brainstorming your dream job is a great way to get inspired and motivated. It can also help you identify skills and interests that you may not have known you had.
When brainstorming your dream job, it’s important to be open-minded and think about any career possibilities that interest you. This could include fields that are completely new to you or areas of your current job that you don’t enjoy as much.
Once you’ve come up with a few ideas, it’s time to start thinking about what qualifications would be necessary for the job. Do some research into the specific requirements of the position and see if any of your skills or interests align with those requirements.
By brainstorming your dream job and taking these steps, you’ll be on your way to finding the perfect career fit and a happy you!
8. Start Making Connections & Build Relationships
Making connections is a key part of coping with a negative career situation. It can help you find comfort in the fact that you’re not alone and connect with people who have gone through similar experiences.
When things are tough, it’s often easy to feel like you’re all alone in your struggles. But by making connections with other people who are going through the same thing, you can start to feel less isolated and more supported. You’ll also be able to share your experiences and learn from others, which can help you overcome obstacles faster.
There are many ways to make connections online – through social media platforms, online communities like Reddit, or even just talking to friends or family members face-to-face. The important thing is to find an outlet that feels comfortable for you and allows you to express yourself freely.
Also, this avenue may lead to a new job opportunity for you.
9. Develop Other Sources of Income
Around here at Money Bliss, we stress the importance of having multiple streams of income.
While your 9-5 may pay your bills, you need to investigate other types of income to really improve your financial situation.
This can be done in a few ways:
Finding new (or returning) employment or 2nd job.
Starting a business.
Freelancing.
Make money with a gig economy job.
Each option has its own benefits and drawbacks, so it’s important to weigh them all carefully before making a decision.
When considering other forms of income, it’s important to keep in mind the following factors: how much time you have available, what you’re willing to sacrifice (including your free time), your skills and experience, and the marketability of your skill set.
I Hate my Boss – Resign With More Class
If you’re unhappy with your job, there’s no need to stay in a situation that is causing you distress. You can resign with class and maintain the respect of your coworkers and boss. Here are some tips on how to do it:
1. Address Your Issues Clearly
When you decide to leave, be clear about why you’re leaving and what your plans are for the future. It’ll help everyone involved understand the reasons behind your decision and avoid any misunderstandings or hurt feelings.
2. Be Polite When You Resign
Don’t make a scene or give anyone the impression that they were wronged in any way. Simply express your appreciation for all they’ve done for you over the past few months or years, thank them for their time, and let them know that you wish them all the best in future endeavors.
3. Most Importantly – Keep Your Work Adjustment Quiet
Your personal life doesn’t have to intersect with work-related decisions until after everything has been finalized – don’t announce your resignation at work or start bargaining terms before actually deciding if it’s what you want to do!
4. Make Sure You Have The Right Legal Documents At Hand
You’ll need documentation confirming your employment status, your dates of employment, and the terms of your separation. Make copies for yourself and store them in a safe place – you may need to refer to them during the negotiating process.
5. Give Yourself Time To Adjust to a Happier Well-Being
Don’t expect everything to fall into place overnight; give yourself plenty of time (perhaps several weeks or even months) to adjust before getting back into the workforce. During this time, it can be helpful to take some time away from work altogether, focus on relaxation techniques like yoga or meditation, or read about career options that interest you.
Which Step Are You Going to Focus on When you Hate Working?
In this article, we discussed some common struggles that people face at work and offer some advice on how to cope. We hope that by sharing our knowledge and experience, you’ll find relief or guidance in dealing with your own job problems.
There are many reasons for workplace unhappiness and changing careers may or may not be the solution to your issues.
When looking for another position, keep in mind that employers are always searching for talented individuals who will fit into their team and contribute positively.
Finally, don’t forget… Talking about your struggles openly can help ease them and give you some ideas for solutions.
Just keep moving forward and don’t give up on your dreams!
Do Your Job With Less Stress Job Ideas:
Maybe it is time for a shift change and moves to one of these careers.
Know someone else that needs this, too? Then, please share!!
This is a guest post from Lily of The Honest Dollar, a great new personal finance blog.
The most common ways to increase your salary are to get promoted or to negotiate a raise. But promotions don’t come along often, and negotiating a raise may or may not result in a salary increase. So what do you do when you want to make more, but you’re between promotions and raises? The good news is that you’re not out of options. The bad news is that you’ll need to get creative and may have to use a little elbow grease.
Low Effort, High Reward 401(k) match. Perhaps the easiest way to get your employer to give you more money is to contribute to your 401(k), if your employer offers a match. A 2007 Hewitt Associates survey [PDF] reports that 98% of employers put some money into 401(k) plans, and two-thirds provide matching contributions. According to Hewitt, the most common type of match is 50% of employee contributions up to 6% of pay. This means that if you make $60,000, then contribute $3,600 to your 401(k), your employer will kick in $1,800. That’s free money that should never be left on the table, if you can help it.
Employee referral rewards. Most companies have employee referral programs, where an employee recommends a candidate and earns a bonus if the referral is subsequently hired. This is an effective way for firms to discover great candidates without paying exorbitant headhunter fees. But referral programs are not always well-publicized. Check with your HR department to see if a program exists and what the rewards are for referrers, then consider submitting a few referrals. Tread carefully, since referring a bunch of people who are not qualified to work at your company will reflect negatively upon you.
High Effort, High Reward Ask for a better 401(k). Maybe your 401(k) doesn’t offer enough choice to fully diversify your retirement savings. Maybe the only investment options carry high fees. Maybe you have to pay fees to the 401(k) administrator. If your 401(k) plan is unreasonably awful, it may be time to speak up and ask for a change; SmartMoney offers a few tips to lobby for a better 401(k). While this does not directly increase your income, it puts your money to work more efficiently. High fees can cost you thousands of dollars by the time you’re ready to retire, and bad investment options can cost even more.
Improve your skill set. Even if your company didn’t give you a raise this year, the best way to score one next year is to make yourself indispensable. One way to do this is to constantly improve your knowledge and skill set. This can mean taking training classes offered by your employer, seeking additional certification in your industry, or even getting an advanced degree. The good news is that some employers are willing to pay for education. Large companies may have established tuition reimbursement programs. If you’re willing to do the paperwork and put in the study hours, you can get a graduate degree at a huge discount. [J.D.’s note:Even small companies can have tuition reimbursement programs. At the box factory, we’ll pay for one class per term. Nobody ever takes us up on it, though.]
Non-Cash Rewards Ask for non-monetary rewards. Bankrate.com notes that it’s difficult to negotiate hard benefits, or “employment areas defined by statues and tax deductions [including] health benefits, pension plans and 401(k)s, stock options, insurance programs, tuition reimbursement and day care.” However, employers have more leeway when it comes to non-regulated benefits and rewards that don’t necessarily require a large and lasting cash outlay, like a raise would. For example, consider asking for an extra week of vacation or a flexible work arrangement where you can telecommute once a week. After all, time is money, and getting more free time (especially free time with family or friends) can be a lot more valuable than a meager raise.
Volunteer within the firm. There are many ways to contribute to your company outside of excelling at your job. Join the recruiting team and participate in school events and interviews. Offer to write a company blog. Even organize the firm holiday party. These volunteering gigs may not have immediate or monetary rewards, but they will expand your in-firm network outside of your department. This might create career opportunities that would not otherwise have been available, and it doesn’t cost you anything but your time.
Get a Virtual Raise Taking advantage of all your company has to offer will require some effort on your part. In the short term, your paycheck may not get bigger, but you may be making more money nonetheless. On a $60,000 salary, in a single year:
You can get $1,800 by getting the maximum 401(k) match if you company matches 50% of employee contributions up to 6% of salary.
You can get $1,500 for referring a candidate who is later hired by your company. (Payouts vary, but the number seems reasonable given going rates in technology, nursing, and chemical engineering.)
You can get $11,000 more out of a 401(k) contribution of $10,000 this year if you manage to lower your investment cost by 0.5% per year for the next 20 years by convincing your company to cover administrative fees or offer lower cost funds.
You can get $5,000 in tuition reimbursement. Of course, you also get the benefit of additional education and accreditation.
You can get the equivalent of $1,200 in salary if you get one additional week of paid vacation.
You can get priceless career opportunities by expanding your network through volunteering opportunities within your firm.
Taken together, those are over $20,000 in non-salary benefits. Opportunities vary at every company, but you won’t get a dollar if you don’t try.
As the 2010s closed, many young and new investors were in for a shock. Even cautious and conservative investors – e.g. those diversifying, utilizing index funds, not chasing the hot stock, etc. – had seen 15%+ annualized returns from their stock portfolios toward the end of the decade.
Investing is easy!
Pile away some money, compound at 20% for a few years, then head to the beach. Mojito, please!
Then 2020 brought a shock…but only for a few months. In fact, 2020 probably taught more of the wrong lesson. Sure, pandemics hurt…but just wait for the historic and massive recovery!
2022 taught the real lesson. Investing – especially stock investing – has perils, too.
Still, the good outweighs the bad. The up years outweigh the down years, and stock market investing has, historically, been a net positive…if you wait long enough.
But how long do you have to wait? Let’s look at a “normal” investor who does the following:
They invest the same amount every month, like you might in 401(k) or to your IRA. They dollar-cost average.
They invest in a broad-based, low-cost index fund. I’ll be using the S&P 500 historical data (from Robert Shiller**) as a proxy for a U.S. stock market index fund.
They don’t sell. They just keep buying, through thick and thin.
**All data is this article assumes dividends are reinvested, and shows real, or inflation-adjusted, returns
Is 3 years long enough to ensure positive returns? Not even close. A quarter of the time, you lose money over 3 years. In fact, you have a 1-in-10 chance of losing 20% or more. That’s far from a good outcome.
What about 10 years? About 88% of the time, yes…but not 100% of the time. There have been distinct periods in stock market history were 10 years of consistent dollar-cost averaging lost you money.
Below is a table showing the last year of such periods, along with the annual internal rate of return (IRR) of those periods. IRR is the proper way to account for the various investing periods that dollar-cost averaging creates (120 months, 119 months, etc).You shouldn’t just look at beginning and ending. You need to account for everything in between.
The 12% of decadal periods with negative returns are concentrated around these 8 end dates.
You could have invested every month from March 1999 to March 2009, and the final result is as if every one of your dollars suffered a 9.6% annual loss from the moment you invested it.
Ewwwww! Compare that filth against the magic of the 2010s. It’s a completely different story! Someone who invested the same way from November 2011 to November 2021 would have a +13.8% annual IRR.
(-9.6%) and +13.8% annual returns are both within reason for 10-year stock market investing timelines. But the two investors who suffer these opposite fates would feel as if they’ve lived different lives. I want you to be aware of both possibilities.
If we zoom out to 20 year timelines, the results change. Negative periods are still possible, but far more unlikely. Only 5% of 20 year periods had negative IRRs, all concentrated around the end dates in the table below.
Yes – someone could have invested diligently from March 1989 to March 2009, and their real annualized return was just 0.1% per year. That’s not a fun outcome. But it is an unlikely one.
If we zoom out further to 30 year periods, there are no periods of negative IRR.
There are still bad periods, no doubt. But at least we’re seeing real, positive annualized returns. We’re getting some reward for taking these risks.
Let’s pause the bad news. Because the median of these 30-year returns is 6.6% annually. That’s amazing. That’s the reason we invest in the first place. We are making a bet that the median will apply to us, and we’ll see 6.6% annual real returns in our own portfolios.
But only if we wait long enough.
The upshot from this data is that stock investing is not a short-term exercise. There are far too many bad outcomes occurring over 3-, 5-, and even 10-year periods. Short-term money should not be invested in stocks. Something like U.S treasury bonds or money markets makes far more sense.
But if you have the time, patience, and stomach, then long-term stock investing is great place to be.
Thank you for reading! If you enjoyed this article, join 6000+ subscribers who read my 2-minute weekly email, where I send you links to the smartest financial content I find online every week.
-Jesse
Want to learn more about The Best Interest’s back story? Read here.
If you prefer to listen, check out The Best Interest Podcast.